Sept. 15, 2021

Season3 Episode 3

Season3 Episode 3

Eric and Gil do a silly Q and A

Transcript
Eric:

Hello and welcome to the Q lounge. I'm Eric

Gil:

and I'm Gil.

Eric:

Join us as we discuss news stories and life situations. As they relate to the LGBTQIA+ experience, please visit us at theQloungepodcast.com and hit that subscribe button or listen wherever you get your podcasts. Hello, and welcome to the Q lounge. I'm Eric

Gil:

and I'm Gil.

Eric:

A few things that we need to discuss. We talked about Lizzo's list and I played devil's advocate with myself on Madonna versus Janet. And I I feel like I gave Madonna way more support than I did Janet. And so I just wanted to clarify a few things. I sure I did mention that Janet is the only artist to be nominated for Grammy's and five different genres of music. Yes, she was the highest pai Singer twice. She's the one who set the precedence for contracts. When she signed with Virgin before the Janet album, where she signed a four album deal for $40 million with the loophole that if it was ever sold, she was out of the contract. So when then when Richard Branson sold it, which was like right after the Janet album came out, she was no longer under contract. And then she resigned for $80 million when she signed up for the velvet rope. That was all really cool. So that's a few things that Janet's and also, I don't know if we've talked about it on this podcast. We might have when I talked about my love for Janet, but I know I get so like flustered and just like super excited about it that I stumbled over my words, but Janet started the rhythm nation scholarship fund for, did I talk about that? Have I talked about that? Okay. So I think it's another great thing. Like her philanthropy is just. Top notch and I think above anybody else's so those are just some other reasons why I would consider her a queen of pop. So just wanted to get that a little bit out of the way.

Gil:

Of course, I would have been shocked if you're were like, no, absolutely. It's hands down, Madonna. And it was like, Eric, we need to cut the podcast real quick. Sidebar.

Eric:

Yeah. That would never do that. So Gil, what do you think about what's going on with Texas? I know we talked about that a lot on the last episode, but let's talk a little bit more about it because things have,

Gil:

it's just when you thought they couldn't go any more backwards, they just find a way to get further back in history. So I apparently it's the year, 1838 in Texas right now.

Eric:

We're living in the Handmaid's tale world.

Gil:

Yeah, no it's just ridiculous with this one right now. So the governor abbott is is determined, is saying by passing this, that is going to pretty much what eradicate rape.

Eric:

No. He was saying that it was because it's just going to eradicate abortion or people assisting with abortion or anything else like that. And then people called him out on what about rape? And he said we're just going to get rid of all the rapists. We're going to get rid of the rape, all the rapists on the streets. That's not how that works. Rape is hardest things to prosecute because it becomes a, they said type situation.

Gil:

Yeah.

Eric:

Rape is committed by someone that you know, or someone who's within your family. And that just you don't know someone's a rapist until they actually raped somebody. So I think that's a very stupid law or a very well, the law itself is stupid and it's Abhorrent and it's disgusting and it's archaic and super misogynistic and very sexist. But that statement is also that. Yeah.

Gil:

Just to sidebar with that one in 2019 pre pandemic, Texas led the way with 15,000 rape cases that are reported the most just reported wow. Reported. And they are by far number one in that category amongst the 50 states.

Eric:

Interesting, good old Texas.

Gil:

And then the law obviously will be outlining abortion. And after the feudal heartbeat can be detected, which is often as early as six weeks into a pregnancy, many women, including rape survivors may not even know that they're pregnant. Exactly. I got it down, pat,

Eric:

man, that guy's an idiot. I don't know how he's still in office. Hopefully they vote him out. And then, all the Republican led states are following suit. Of course, I feel like the whole Texas thing is very much like Florida and DeSantis. Were being all stupid and assholic and gross. And they're like, here, hold my beer. Yeah. But like Kristi Noem from South Dakota, she is now trying to make it difficult to have access to abortion medications. So no more like telemedicine, no more calling it in. You have to go in-person to meet with the doctor. You have to get a prescription in person. You have to deliver it to the pharmacy in person and pick it up in person.

Gil:

It, shaming them is what it is. It's a war on women.

Eric:

It is literally as a war on women.

Gil:

And that's the thing I tiredlessly. Isn't saying anything it's saying for quite some time, it's just, this is a medical between you and your doctor and isn't that of our damn business. As simple as that. And I don't. Where the whole conservative base is about, having no or limited government interference. So I still, once again, don't understand why is it their damn business, especially from the conservatives. So

Eric:

th their level of hypocrisy is baffling. To be kind, that's a kind way to put it.

Gil:

I, yeah. Cause they're pro birth, they're pro birth, but they won't support. They will strip what is the new, it's not food stamps. It's what it's called snap. There'll be more than willing to strip that away. But as soon as the kid is eligible to become military, so there'll be 18 then it's pro-military for the child, obviously,

Eric:

as long as it's a poor

Gil:

child. Yes. Normally poor minority child, then it's. And then it's all about getting them good again.

Eric:

And guess who else has heartbeats, all those kids that were put in concentration camps? Yeah,

Gil:

of course, but they're not American white American children, so

Eric:

yeah. And then also when you bring up adoption and they, cause you have a lot of gay parents that want to adopt children. Yes. And they're like, oh no, you can't have gays adopt children. And you have all these laws with all these Christian I'm air quoting people, Christian adoption agencies? Yes, that's. I know we don't want gay people adopting kids from us. It goes against what we believe and It goes against what we believe and sorry, I'm like completely out of it. It's been a rough day going. I had a discussion in our precast. I've gotten some not so great news, so I'm pushing through, but my mind is not quite here. Let's talk adoption. So Pete Buttigieg, and Chastin Buttigieg, they welcomed their two kids from through surrogacy. Yes, they did. Because again, gay people aren't allowed to adopt. I know they can, but it's just a lot harder. Yes it is. But congratulations to the Buttigieg's Penelope rose and

Gil:

I Joseph August.

Eric:

Okay. So congratulations on twins. Very cute. I'm very happy for them. I think it's great. It's representation. Exactly. So I'm not the biggest Buttiegieg fan. I don't mind him, but it's representation. So I'm all for representation.

Gil:

Yeah, no, it's excellent.

Eric:

You're expecting you're in the process of thinking

Gil:

about expecting. Yes. Yes. I'm like not yet. Not yet. Hold on, give me a second.

Eric:

Wait, what, where's my pearls and where's my drink.

Gil:

I know it's the best part of being in the community is that we, at least it's planned. So it's not going to be a surprise by the time it comes down the pipe, I've never going to be ready, but it's,

Eric:

Are you guys thinking adoption or surrogacy or adoption?

Gil:

Adoption? Yeah. Surrogacy would be nice, but it's a little bit pricey. Yeah. We're not like, I always joke with Chris about this. Cause like we watch a lot of home shows like Magnolia and all that. It's almost oh my God, what'd you guys do for a living? They're like, oh, I catch butterflies. And he sits on a sidewalk making smiles our budget's 1.8 million. And I'm like, what the fuck am I doing with my life? We don't have that kind of money.

Eric:

No, I hear that. I look around and I'm like, what the fuck is going on? Like where did I fucked up in my life?

Gil:

I'm like, I'm working hard and I'm not there. So yeah. So anyways. Yeah, we're gonna, we're gonna probably go now probably 99% chance going through the adoption, just regular adoption agencies and that's exciting.

Eric:

I'm happy for you, which is actually really huge. Cause when I met you, you were like, I don't want kids.

Gil:

I know. I know, but it took time. It took

Eric:

time. It took time. But I know Chris has always really wanted children.

Gil:

Yes. I've slowed down his plans with that. But so I've come around. You guys

Eric:

have compromised and at least kids were not, was not a deal breaker for you.

Gil:

No. That was not the deal breaker. So that's good. Yeah. So we're going to be doing that. I know he's been listening to I'm sorry, what was the podcast? He told you, the podcast is

Eric:

squared podcast. We're not getting any kickback from them, but it's a good podcast. It's called daddy squared and it's about two dads who Talk about what they've gone through with their kids. But the season I listened to, they were talking to dads from across the world and it's gay fathers and they talk. Different fathers from around the world and what their processes are. So it was actually a really interesting show. And I know one of the guys is from, I believe Israel and I forgot where the other one's from. He might be from the United States. I don't remember.

Gil:

Yeah, that was actually like hurt him or overheard him. I was playing roller coaster and I would just overheard it a little bit. The podcast, I think it was like one of the fathers he's from Russia and obviously the issues there I'm trying to adopt.

Eric:

So one of the guests that they had,

Gil:

one of the guests they had was from Russia.

I

Eric:

think I actually heard

Gil:

that episode. I was like, oh, it perked my interest, but yeah, it was just very, that's a fascinating one. So anyways, he's been doing, that'd be doing more like the other kind of research websites, seeing what the, how long does it take normally and stuff like that. But yeah, we're slowly getting into that rhythm. Yeah. So I think I'll be entertaining. I

Eric:

think that's awesome.

Gil:

And it's taken time. At least I'm not going to be, I guess I, I am not in my twenties anymore now. I'm like, okay, now I'm more, a little bit more willing. And the grays are coming in.

Eric:

I am like all I'm bald. And my beard is like pretty much all white and still super single. So you've got the marriage, someone in your life already, and you're like 30 years younger than I am. So we got that going for you. Also like a cool thing that I was reading earlier today, too. Zendaya, everyone knows that I don't know. I don't always talk about her, but I've mentioned her once or 50 times on this podcast. I guess she did an interview with Vogue, not American Vogue or USA Vogue. I try not to say American anymore because America is north and south America and central, so USA, but it wasn't that one, I, it was a European Vogue. I don't remember which country, so shame on me for that, but she was talking about feminism and how there needs to be representation for all women, including trans women, which I thought was really awesome. Because again, we talked about this younger generation is very open and very progressive. Correct. And they're moving us in the right direction, correct? Towards the right boat. So what else? Gil

Gil:

sorry. I just blanked out for a second there. I think we're

Eric:

just both like

Gil:

easy today or Spacey today. It's okay. Let's see. I know she's been our when I was in the cosmetic department, she was our spokesperson for Lancom for the adult fragrance and it was always wonderful seeing her. I always wanted her to come and store because she's from the bay area. Oh, is she? Yeah, she's out of Oakland. So it was cool. I was like, Hey, let's take the Bart over to the city. I'm sure we're going to happen.

Eric:

I'm sure she doesn't need to take the Bart. Oh

Gil:

God no. The girl will drive over The store to go chaotic. If she ever came in, like I just thought it would be really cool.

Eric:

I'd be like, oh my God, get me an autograph. Oh no, absolutely.

Gil:

But I do love that. Like how she does push everything, she's definitely representation of her generation. And versus if you would've looked at what is it back in the eighties, as much as we love the eighties, but that generation was moving a lot more at the time conservative. It was red, and then this generation, us X alpha, it's all going to be left as hell, which is perfect. Hopefully, yes. Hopefully as long as we continue voting correctly.

Eric:

Yeah, cause I saw. And this, she did this a while ago, actually, once she was doing an interview, when someone's what's your ideal man? And she's like my ideal person. Yes. And I was like, oh yeah, for you. And then they had asked her something else and she was just very much Nope, this is how it is. So I was like, oh, you go. You. Yeah. I can't wait for Euphoria to start again.

Gil:

But did he have a release date or not yet? No. It was probably gonna be like

Eric:

early 20, 22. So I had an idea Gil. Yes. I thought it would be fun to do some nonsensical Q and a. These are like surveys taken from myspace. The space.

Gil:

We loved it.

Eric:

I loved my space. I like to way more than Facebook and I wasn't in my space jail all the time. Like I just got in trouble on Instagram and my Facebook recently, I'm not in jail, but they were mad because I was posting about how awful the Texas law was.

Gil:

You should've said you're from Russia, that you will.

Eric:

So let's go ahead and do some of these Questions. Okay. And we'll see where we go with this.

Gil:

We should customize our screen. No, I don't know. That'd be cool on the podcast to show off, but no one can see us. Oh yeah. That's true.

Eric:

By the way, I liked that little rainbow thing. That's behind you.

Gil:

Thank you. It's my, a little Mickey mouse ears during. Oh, okay. Yeah. So I actually went there during what was it or was it pre pandemic obviously? I went down there during their pride ish. It was like right after, shortly after the pride festival. And then I, my mom went to a little convention that they had there. What does, she's probably like D 23 or something like that. I believe that's what it is. I grabbed the Mickey mouse ears, had them engrave. My name, I was so giddy, like being a little child. And then when I put it on, I saw Minnie, no one was standing next to Minnie. I ran over to her and she gave me like this gigantic hug when she saw my ears. And I was just so excited. Yeah. And of course everyone else came after that, just to take a photo with Minnie mouse. Cause everyone was taking a photo with Mickey at the time. So there's my little story with the ears.

Eric:

That's awesome. I like them. Yeah. Oh really quickly. Before we go into this Q and a thing, Brittany Spears, her father just filed a petition to end the conservatorship. So

Gil:

slowly, surely, here we go for a bit day

Eric:

because people know that we've been following the free Britney craze and everything else. So yeah.

Gil:

It's been happy with our generation. It's not new. It's just what is it? The discovery of Missy Elliott? Oh my God. Sorry, the Superbowl. I'm sorry. She's not new bitch. ain't new

Eric:

really quickly going back to Janet Jackson because he had mentioned Missy Elliott, Janet Jackson dropped the trailer for her documentary. That's coming out on lifetime and A&E oh,

Gil:

oh, so that is real. And I saw an advertisement, I wasn't sure. In

Eric:

January. Okay. And it's it's been in the works for like over five years. And the fact like Missy Elliott was like, this is a true superstar. Yeah. And then Mariah Carey's in it too. Talking about her. janet's, the real deal, everybody get up and she's going to speak on everything, including Superbowl and everything, and how Les Moonves tried to destroy her career, which also she persevered after being blacklisted. So that's another reason why she's hot.

Gil:

Are we coming up? Are we coming over almost 20 years on it, on that super bowl? Yeah, because I, it just dawned on me that nine 11 is going to be this Weekend and the 20th anniversary is popping up. Which, we feel like it's just like yesterday. Yeah,

Eric:

we do. I still remember that whole day that it was really hard. Yeah, I'll be 20, 24 for the super bowl. Yeah, that was the Damita Jo album came out.

Gil:

Damn. Yeah. Cause it was happening right after that because it was the, was it. Yeah, how to be every fucking I'm would say every single super bowl. Is I okay. Since 2001? Yes. New England was in that Superbowl. Yeah.

Eric:

Okay. Okay. Let's go with some of these silly questions. Okay. Okay. Do you like blue cheese? No,

Gil:

you don't. I am not a fan.

Eric:

I love blue cheese. I love blue cheese since I was a child. Oh wow. Blue cheese dressing is like my favorite dressing in the world.

Gil:

Do you like the one at Dion's? Have you tried the one?

Eric:

I have tried the one on Dion's I've had better, but it's good. I do order it. I actually ordered more there. Raspberry vinegarette, the raspberries.

Gil:

Fantastic.

Eric:

That's what I usually order. Cause I try to be a little bit healthier. I've had better blue cheese and their ranches. Amazing. But,

Gil:

Yeah, cause I don't like ranch, but their ranch is

Eric:

amazing. Yeah. But no, I love blue cheese. I love blue cheese crumbled. I like Gorgonzola. I love I like really pungent foods. Like really like intense foods. So I love blue cheese, so yeah. That's yours. The answer is no, let me see the reason why.

Gil:

Okay. Next one. Have you ever smoked a cigarette?

Eric:

I have, I was actually a smoker for about nine years. I smoked from the age of 13 to about 22. And then I may maybe 21, I think it was 21, but it was like a few months before my 22nd birthday. It was a new year's Eve that I was like, I'm not smoking anymore. And I like, as soon as it hit midnight, I through all the rest of my pack away. Yeah. But I did smoke not heavily though. I a pack would last me a week, so I was not like a hardcore smoker, but I did smoke. And then I had moments after that in which I would smoke a little bit, like depending on who I was with. Yeah. No cause you know what? I think I actually picked up smoking again in my twenties because like when I would go out clubbing, it

Gil:

was clubbing. Cause I thought you did here. It was very infrequent.

Eric:

Yeah. But no, but there was a point before you and I hung out, I was smoking more, but it was still mainly clubbing because as people know I'm super shy or I always I've talked that I'm super shy, whether they believe it or not, I don't know, but I'm a super shy person and I never talked to people. So that's the one thing I miss about smoking is the social aspect. Cause I could be like, oh, Hey, can I buy my cig or, Hey, do you have a light? And then you can start having a conversation. That's

Gil:

true. It's an easy way.

Eric:

It's an easy in. I don't have that anymore. I've always thought it was a gross and disgusting habits. Like even when I did smoke, I thought it was a gross habits, but yeah, I smoked for a little while. And then at one point, probably about 10 years ago, I started vaping with those blue cigarettes,

Gil:

Which are like what triple worse than the

Eric:

cigarette. Yeah. But that wasn't even four months worth. And I haven't had a cigarette really in a really long time. So have you ever smoked a cigarette?

Gil:

Okay. Yeah, I got another I'm like, Nope, nothing there either. It's all boring already.

Eric:

Do you own a gun?

Gil:

I do not. I do not own a gun. Not that I'm opposed. I just don't own one. Have you ever shot a gun? No, even though my stepfather does. Okay. Yeah. Like I've been around it. Okay. Like even my sister has I personally have not. Okay. Oh,

Eric:

watch yourself. I have not, I do not own one. I have not ever held one. I've never even shot a BB gun. The only thing I've ever shot is like the super soaker water gun.

Gil:

Yeah, those ones I have, but

Eric:

that's it. And I've been super soaked by other things, but actually swallowed those so

Gil:

left behind,

Eric:

I guess that makes me a cannibal. Huh? Mouthful. Full of protein sticky situation. Yes. So this next one's going to be a two-part question. Oh no, it's your turn.

Gil:

Yeah. Okay. This one's interesting. If you live near one, what flavor do you add to your drink at Sonic? Okay. Did you notice? I said it without an S Sonics.

Eric:

I've never heard it with

Gil:

an S yeah. There's a lot of people I know. There'll be, oh, you want to go to Sonics?

Eric:

Oh, I've never heard it with an S yeah. Sonic. So when I do go to Sonic, I don't go to Sonic a whole lot, but fast food restaurants. That's probably the one I go to them more so than a lot of others. I always get a diet limaide with extra lime and, no ice. So I guess my drink, so occasionally I'll add like a mango or a peach to a Sprite zero, but I still pretty much always get the line. I would say the limeaide with extra lime that's

Gil:

yeah. I know it's a Blasphemous I was probably the. Outcast because I didn't grow up near a Sonic. So that was, to me, it was like, what the hell? So when I, people ask, oh, do you want to get a drink? And I'm always like, just get me a milkshake. So I know we get like an Oreo blast or something of that nature. From Sonics. I never got any like Coke with XYZ. You

Eric:

just said Sonics. Oh no. Sonic. Oh

Gil:

yeah. I did not. I just don't ever got just like a normal milkshake from them. Cause it was so foreign to me. Like why would I add whatever into my drink?

Eric:

Yeah. I think back in the day I used to do like vanilla strawberry. Yeah. But that's been a really long time. Do you nervous before doctor's appointments?

Gil:

I do. I actually get a little nervous. I think it's just mostly because I already know what's gonna happen. And it's just getting actually the results a black and white okay, this is what it is. And I'm just like, Ugh, God damn it. Cause I, I prefer not. I dunno, just, I prefer not to know sometimes just because then if it's special, if it's negative or something like that, that I'm like, oh, this is going to be life. altering. Have to be blah, blah, blah. Then you can't ignore it consciously. I can't ignore it, but if I don't need to know that I can just live, just live whatever I'm doing. It's weird. But I do sometimes I will get a little nervous. how about you.

Eric:

I guess it depends on the situation. It's situational. If I'm going in for just a basic checkup and I'm feeling fine, then I have no problem. Going to the doctor and having a discussion and chatting about whatever I want to chat about. If there's something wrong. Like I think it was about, was it five years ago, I got really sick and my life changed forever. That wasn't good news. And then a couple of years ago I had a cancer scare. So dealing with those doctors was also very nerve wracking. Oh, I bet. Especially when you have to have three biopsies shit. But I'm also like super advocative for myself. I am like super advocate for myself, so I will sit there and have full on discussions with the doctors and I can talk to them in their lingo. Cause I studied medicine as far as like Asian medicine and everything that's like that. And we have to learn Western terminology as well as Eastern terminology. And so I will I'll sit there and have full on discussions. I've kept doctors in the room for an hour and a half making first making them talks with me. Yeah. And they're like, I've got other, I don't care if you have other patients. We are going to sit here in chats on why my health is this way. When I have been coming here for a years saying this isn't right, this isn't right. This isn't right. Oh, your labs show nothing. Everything looks fine. No, this isn't right. So I, I don't necessarily get nervous per se, unless I'm like awaiting some results about stuff, but I will definitely go in there. I don't go to the doctors that often. I go once a year just for an annual checkup, although I didn't go last year because of COVID, but I am very advocative and I'm like, okay, we're going to have this discussion now be an advocate for yourself people.

Gil:

Absolutely. But if you're not find someone who can be that you trust

Eric:

absolutely.

Gil:

Eric, do you like hot dogs?

Eric:

Only if they're 12 feet or 12 feet, 12 inches or longer 12 feet,

Gil:

sorry, twice,

Eric:

two and a half times. Yeah, maybe two and a quarter. I don't know. Talk about being kebabs as long as they're I would say if they're eight and a half, we're good. Then I like hot dogs. But since we're talking about actual hot dogs I do like hot dogs. Omaha steaks makes the bomb hot. Yeah, and I'm a mustard on my hot dog kind of person. So I love mustard relish. I'm not a big ketchup person. I'll do chili cheese dogs, but I don't eat bread. So I do eat bread on occasion, but I don't eat it with

Gil:

my hot dogs. Cause straight to the point with it,

Eric:

straight to the meats, take that 12 inch all the way down my throat. And then I follow it up with a protein shake.

Gil:

Yeah, I don't care for hotdogs. I am not a big fan. I actually pretended to be sick as a kid when they came up on the meal thing

Eric:

they're super bad for you, by the way, like one of the worst foods for you. I think they just released a study, right? That they like take like all this time off of your life. Go ahead. No,

Gil:

No, of course. But don't get a vaccine shot anyways. Sorry. I cannot, it's so petty about that. But yeah, I remember faking to get sick, to get out of hotdog day kind of things. Yeah. It's the, like the rare moment actually left school. My mom had to come get me and then despite what the hell?

Eric:

This child. All right. Corn dogs too. Like I know

Gil:

God.

Eric:

I don't eat them that often. Yeah.

Gil:

I would take out the hot dog and eat the bread with, let's say like the, what is it? My family likes to go to the dog house off of what is it? 12th in Rio Grande or Rio Grande central. Okay. But when they were open we didn't have cause they have really good chili, but I used to just get like the, either the fries with chili or if I got a hot dog take out the, eat the chili with the bread. Okay. They call it a day. Okay.

Eric:

Yeah. What do you prefer to drink in the morning?

Gil:

I have to have my coffee. Okay. I love my coffee in the morning. Slow sipping, take my time. Or if I'm sitting in traffic as it's, being in the bay area, you're gonna be in traffic. I do like my coffee.

Eric:

Do you nurse your drinks? Are you or your nurse or when you drink in

Gil:

general, if it's hot, I do. Okay. If it's cold, normally that's just like chucking that thing down quickly. Okay. Yeah. But normally if it's a hot drink, I like to take my time. I'm really enjoying my Teleo sip, talking to everyone, that kind of thing. I am not a tea person in the morning. Okay. I just cannot do tea in the morning. I like tea more like mid-afternoon, if I am going to do something like that, because tea and I drink at Asian style. So it's just gonna be straight up. It's not add cream and sugar, which I do like English tea, but I prefer it. If I'm going to drink a regular, like a hot boiling teat sometime mid afternoon, it gives me more of a bolt, like a jolt of energy. And it keeps you more wired than coffee does coffees to me is like a nice warming soothing thing, which is odd. I do like that. Yeah. Okay.

Eric:

Yeah. I don't drink, I don't drink caffeine. I think I've talked about that in to nauseum on this podcast. So I don't drink caffeine, so I definitely don't do coffee. I only do herbal teas and I drink a lot of water. I'll drink tea. I drink crystal light too. Cause sometimes I'll be like, I don't want water right now. So let me make a crystal light. Okay. But no, the first thing I drink in the morning is water. You gotta swallow those vitamins somehow.

Gil:

Yeah, that's true.

Eric:

You got to rinse out last night's pleasure somehow

Gil:

and clean skin. So Eric, can you do a pushup

Eric:

I can do a push-up? I'm not as good at pushups as I used to be. Okay. I'm slowly getting back into being decent at them. I do a lot of chaturanga Dandasana, which is a yoga style pushup. I do teach yoga. And so I do a lot of that. But yeah, I can do pushups now. Pull ups is another story, but I can do.

Gil:

Yeah, I was going to say, I can do pushups. I don't care for it. I could do it. It's not something I'm willing to do. Safety with pull-ups I feel like emotionally. I don't know physically. I'm not, I know I'm not in the shape that I was 10 years ago, so it's, everything's slowed down every so drastically.

Eric:

I'm going to skip cause a lot of these are questions. A lot of these are food questions. What's your favorite hobby?

Gil:

Oh shit. I don't know. I don't know what my favorite hobby would be sad. What is yours?

Eric:

Dance. Dance to me is the greatest thing in the world. Yoga, working out, going to the gym, writing hanging out with my friends, hanging out with my dogs, I guess I don't really have a whole lot of friends. So hanging out with my dogs, watching tennis. Watching sports.

Gil:

Okay. So traveling sports for me.

Eric:

Okay. Yeah, I guess for me, but I haven't been in a couple of years. Yeah.

Gil:

Yeah. I think those would be like my thing I enjoy hanging out, but since the pandemic feels like a century, it

Eric:

goes as life. I have to answer this question a lot because I'll ask you all the time on dating apps or hookup apps. Oh, gotcha.

Gil:

So

Eric:

I answered this question a lot, but I have answered it.

Gil:

Let's say let's do another one name, three things you bought yesterday.

Eric:

Ooh. Three things I bought yesterday. I don't have

Gil:

to think about it.

Eric:

I bought some autumn squash soup. Okay. Cause that's yum. I bought a plum ginger tea with Splenda from Panera. And what else did I buy? Oh, I had a double cheeseburger with no bread for dinner.

Gil:

It was all food. It was all food yesterday. Yeah. Let's see for me. What the hell did I buy us? Or yesterday was my last day at work. So I really didn't surprisingly buy anything because my lunch was paid for. By somebody else. I had all my like little snacks off the day. We're all paid for all. We think I really paid for was my damn parking. Never cheap, my parking and toll. There we go. That's one of the two, I don't have three things really. I pay for, cause this was, I came home. I had dinner ready. Oh wow. Because my sister already made dinner at the time. So like I said, it was all normally I pay if I'm buying anything, my, my debit card is probably screaming food, 90% of the things. And then, 5% of will probably be like leisure stuff like clothing or whatever. And the other five will be other bills or whatever the hell it is. But I had already just I buy drinks throughout the day. That's just what I,

Eric:

yeah. I, on average I made a credit card payment There we go. Let's see. Where's your favorite place to go?

Gil:

Oh, God, okay. Let me just do an overarching cause it's, I mean like location, it's hard because it being me and anyone's known me, my moods could be, as they say, turbulent at times pick up fluctuates like an atypical cancer. But generally for me, I am, I love to go, especially if I'm in any kind of mood and I, even if I'm pissed or happy, whatever the ocean, I like to head towards the beach and not sunny beach. I like the nice, cool foggy, I could bring a coffee and a dessert to the beach. I'm not from the so Cal. So like sunny, hot, sweaty, and jumping in the beach into the water is not pleasant to me. Okay. I really am not a fan. Okay, but I love to be in a peacoat and a bonfire on the beach. Nice. Like for me, that's a nice place to go how about you. I

Eric:

don't have access to a beach. I've never lived by a beach. I've been to a beach. I've been to two beaches. I, my favorite place to go cause I haven't traveled a whole lot. My traveling experience is pretty sad. I'm going to say Vegas is my favorite place to go. Vegas is just super calming for me. It's a very chill place. It makes me feel peaceful. It makes me happy. I know we had Curtis on here last season and we talked about that and how Vegas is just like a sanctuary for me, it's just a very peaceful calming. I know people were like, oh, how as big as calming, but it really is. It is. So

Gil:

I was gonna say pre pandemic, like I found solace in like that how busy, like the city would be, even though the zillion people in the city, but I always felt like I could be alone. If that makes sense. Like no one will bother me, everyone doing their own shit. And I could just sit there versus literally be going alone by yourself with no one. I dunno. I find that nerve wracking for me. Yeah. In the middle of a crowd, no one knows me and I'm like, oh, that's wonderful. What song do you sing in the shower?

Eric:

So I don't really sing in the shower. I don't hum. Oh, I hum when I have something in my mouth, but because it's the vibrations feel good. I dance in the shower and when I was a performer. A lot of my really good choreography would come up. So I'd be like, like 45, 50 minutes in the shower, like coming up with counts and putting choreography together. So I just have typically dance in the shower. I don't sing really in the shower at all. I was in choir at one point in my life, but Yeah, I dance in the shower and the music that I listened to is whatever songs are moving me in that moment or Janet. Okay.

Gil:

I like to sing very low with it. I'll be singing to the lyrics. I am, I don't have a voice. My, my mom and my, like my mom's side of the family all have voices. It's wonderful. They're all singing away. And then here comes to children who do not have the voice, what so ever. But I do love I grew up with music, so I, and I'm so afraid of slipping in the shower. Cause I've slipped so many times, so I don't dance or I try to,

Eric:

I have slipped many a times in the shower and luckily I can catch myself. Yeah.

Gil:

And I'm like me, I'm like, whoop, there I go. I'm going to be that old person. I'll tell you. Life alerts can be my best friend.

Eric:

Actually, so just the other day, it might've been the end of last week. I think it was like last Thursday or Friday. No, it was last Wednesday. It was last Wednesday. So it was last week. I was at the gym and I danced between in my rest periods between sets I, and I zone out. So I just start like just really going at it with my dancing. And I have some guys stopped me to talk to me about oh my God, you're really breaking it down and not out. And I was like, I used to be a performer. And then he's yeah, you can tell you should be teaching classes. I'm like, yeah, I used to. But then I get really aware that people are watching me and then I'm like, oh shit, maybe I shouldn't dance so much. I also have some really cool, I had some really cute way at the front desk. Tell me that he liked my watch band, my pink watch band.

Gil:

Here we go. Fall wedding 20 22, 11,

Eric:

11, 20 22.

Gil:

Yeah. For the music though. I sing whatever is in the moment. Okay. But lately, because ABBA, I have been listening to ABBA. It makes me so happy.

Eric:

I'm still listening to a lot of black pink. I am totally digging my K-pop right now. What is your favorite girl's name and your favorite boys name since there's going to be having kids?

Gil:

I oh God. Okay. So for a boy, I liked name. I liked the name Aiden. Yeah, it did. I liked that name, Aiden or Otto, I don't know. I enjoy it. I dunno why it just always like Otto. That's pretty cool. Girls' names. I don't know. I've been all over the place with the

Eric:

girl names. Does Chris have preferred names?

Gil:

I think he does. He's going to be, I know he's going to be listened to like, how do you not know? Yeah, I know he has his name. We liked the name. Okay. I've heard it obviously in the show. It was a popularized with Gilmore girls. I've always liked, Hey, that's a nice name. I've heard it before. I was joked. Why don't we name her Gilberto after me? This is Roberta. That could be a Gilbert. I've been vetoed so many times with that suggestion. Gilberta. See? Yeah I everyone's rolled their eyes at me. how aboutyou?

Eric:

My, yeah, so my favorite boy's name is Sebastian. Okay. And I think if I ever became a porn star or if I ever became a stripper, my stage name would be Samuel, Sebastian. Ooh. And then my favorite girl's name is Samantha. Samantha. Okay. Yeah. So Sebastian and Samantha, I also really liked the name Marcus. So

Gil:

yeah, Marcus is nice. See, I like Christian, Chris, but Chris will not tolerate. Okay. Do that.

Eric:

You know why I like Sebastian so much because when I was younger, I idolized Sebastian Bach from skid row and I always wanted to be like six, three with long blonde hair. I'm not any of those things. So yeah, I always just, so that's why I like that name so much. And I think I like Samantha so much. Obviously. I like the name Janet too, but I liked the name Samantha so much because I loved Samantha Fox as a child. Oh yeah. So yeah. Yeah. And naughty girls need love.

Gil:

Of course. Okay. So what are, I guess if you'll be multiple things, obviously, what is your favorite sports team? Favorite sports we do since we do like our sports anyways, and it can be obviously throughout multiple leagues. So

Eric:

I like a variety of sports for, let me just say that. A and so I don't know all the leagues though. So sometimes it's just like getting in a good game. Yes. Like I love lacrosse, but I don't follow it enough. If I, if it's on TV and I'm like, Ooh, lacrosse on I'll watch it. Or same with water polo? Like American football. I like the Pittsburgh Steelers. Yes. It's odd. You would think I was from Pittsburgh or at least Pennsylvania because my favorite baseball team, although I really don't watch baseball. Cause I find it super boring unless you're there at the ballpark is the Pittsburgh pirates and my favorite hockey team, which I really don't watch hockey either. Is the Pittsburgh penguins. Yes. And that's just, it's weird. That's how I grew up. My mom's a huge Steelers fan. My mom's a huge pirates fan, so I just adopted those teams from her. And then I would like just assumed that she was a penguins fan, but she hates the penguins actually, but I couldn't, I had already committed myself to them. So I wasn't going to turn my back basketball. I really don't follow anymore. I don't follow NBA. I don't follow college basketball. I don't really follow a college football, although I hate LSU and Ohio state and any place that urban Meyer has been and. Yeah. I watch a lot of tennis too, but that's not teams and rugby and rugby seven. I know like the New Zealand team is really good soccer. I love, but it's pretty much like I love south American style soccer more than European style soccer. And I always go for Brazil regardless. But I know there's all these different major soccer leagues too. And I don't know the different teams in the soccer league, so I'm a bad sports person, but as I smack myself in the face.

Gil:

But at least you have your teams. Yeah.

Eric:

And what about

Gil:

you for me? Let's see. So with American football, I'm a 49ers fan. So I'm obviously from the bay area let's see baseball like the giants San Francisco giants, just to clarify. Cause there's always the football one. That one I normally, especially I'm a summer baby. So I normally, wherever they are, I try to fly. To go see them, especially to go east. I like to go and which my husband absolutely hates the fact that I like to go east during the summer months. It's pure hell with the humidity too. Pampered out here. Let's see for hockey, I love hockey. I root for the Canucks for Vancouver because I always wanted a Canadian team to root for, but I also didn't want the Yankee. So the equivalent would be the Canadians and they want to root for them because I was like, oh gosh, written for the yanks. Let's see basketball. I have such a love hate for, cause I, I can't really say that I'm a warriors fan or Kings LA. I just want both bay area as long as both bay area teams or in Sacramento valley beats. That's who I root for, which

Eric:

I know you're going to hate me for, but I used to be a huge LA Lakers fan because I was a huge magic Johnson fan. Oh God. I love magic Johnson. I still love magic Johnson. And so

Gil:

Shaquille O'Neal when I was a kid, because I liked him on the magic before he went to LA. And then when he went to LA, I was so heartbroken. I was like, LA is the magic where the team I rooted for just because I like Shaq, he was like this gigantic guy. I'm like, yay.

Eric:

That's my three, four.

Gil:

Yeah, but it's pretty much any team that could beat LA. Okay. I'm pretty, I'll pretty much root for naturally with that. I love European set. I like my European soccer. I do some, a big real Madrid fan. I enjoy cause I, what I got into soccer, Raul was a big guy who was before Christiana, Ronaldo and Messi and all that. So this is back in the early two thousands. Pleased to follow him. Let's say I enjoy tennis like you do. I'm bored to death with golf. Oh yeah. Right now it is. And I do not. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Us open. Yes.

Eric:

And Djokovich is probably gonna win all four slams in one calendar year, but he did not get the golden slam because he did not win the gold in the Olympics. And I'm actually not, I've always thought he was a really good player, but I'm not going for him because he's just made some certain comments and commentary that I don't appreciate. So now I'm just not a fan of his,

Gil:

I enjoyed watching Federer when he was, yeah,

Eric:

I've never been a big Federer fan, but I will never, I like him a lot more now than I used to, but I will never ever deny how great of a tennis player he is.

Gil:

He was, yeah, no, fantastic. Absolute fantastic. and same with NAdal Yeah. with Nadal I, college basketball always root for my Lobo and I got into it actually, because of. Okay. Yeah, that's the reason I was like, oh my God. Okay. Then I really got into it because growing up in the bay area is like w Cal or Stanford basketball. Behind the football teams. Yeah. It's all about the football teams. And even between that, like I'll root on. Normally Cal is who I'm rooting for college football, but Lord knows Wordly fifth place compared to every, so running a Lobos football also didn't matter because I'm like, okay, I know everyone else is going to beat us. It's okay. We're there. Yay. Go team. So anything above one victory season, I will take that's my rose bowl. Yeah. But I love my sports. Like you do. There's a stereotype. We broke,

Eric:

I had a hand in my gay card, actually. I had a hand on my gay card the other day too, because I had my nails painted black. And so my boss was like, oh, is it gel nail Polish? I was like, I don't know. And she's you don't know? I was like, no. And she's did you have to put your hands under the little light? I was like, actually like it's gel. I was like, okay. I was like, here's my gay card. Cause I don't know the difference between that stuff. I will say though, gel is a bitch and a half to get off your nails. And I still have specks of black on my nails. Cause I'm just, I don't have the patience to let it soak off with acetone and yeah. I don't know. Sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off. Oh no,

Gil:

no, not at all.

Eric:

This is actually a depressing question, but I'm going to go ahead and ask it. What song do you want played at your funeral? Oh

Gil:

yeah, it was ironic. Cause I was thinking about this a while ago. Not a while, like maybe a week ago, two weeks ago. I was like, I'm going to make up before. I hopefully when I, by time I get to that point, I hopefully I have an idea like, oh, my end is near. I can create my little playlist. I try to look for an instrumental version of sweet dreams. Like they're better. And I told them I will be pissed and not that I am going to come back for another, from the death or anything like that, but there's this, they have to be an Annie Lennox song and I will find one. They better

Eric:

play one. There's the swede dreams, remixed by Avicci, which is pretty dope. Yeah. I don't know if that would count for,

Gil:

I would prefer one or the originals or okay. But I'll find a song. I don't really have a particular song right now. Okay. I just, yeah. What you do.

Eric:

Yeah, I actually do and so this is going to be a long story, shocking. Cause I can't seem to say one or two words. I have to go into a whole story about everything. When I was in college, I took a class because I needed to fill my schedule. So I took death in a class called death and dying, which turned out to be one of the absolute best classes I've ever taken in my life. But we had to plan our own funeral. Okay. And so this was a long time ago, because again, I was in college. And so we had to put like what song we wanted written, what song we wanted and all this other stuff. So one song that has to be played at my funeral and there has to be there's four different versions of the song that have to be played. Janet Jackson's together again. Oh, I want the original, I want the, just the bass remix. I want the deeper remix. There's another one. I can't think of what the remix is, but it's the same song. I want that song played at my funeral. That would be nice. And that song is about celebrating a person's life. And it was dedicated to people that she had lost, who had died of aids. This, the celebration of life. So I think that is the song I want. They know that as a song I want played that.

Gil:

That's good to know. Yeah. So in 60 years we'll start planning. We'll get ready. Let's see. Okay. There's the other back half of these questions now, because of course, this is my space. And back in the day, we would sit there and do these 200 questionnaires.

Eric:

We decided to do this because we thought it'd be fun for you guys to get to know us a little bit better.

Gil:

Let's see. Have you kiss someone and regretted it?

Eric:

Yes. And that's all I'm going to say.

Gil:

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. I'm like, yes. Oh boy. What are your three favorite colors?

Eric:

My three favorite colors. Okay. So let me now go into a long story. So I always say black, but I know some people get mad and say what black is not really a color. It's a shade. So are we considering it a color or a

Gil:

shade? I've considered it a

Eric:

color. Okay. So black is my favorite color. I love blue. Okay. Now when I was younger, it was like, it was blue, but then I liked black, white, and red because those were Janet's favorite color. But now I would say black blue, and I love Robin egg blue, like the Tiffany. Yeah. Oh yeah. That's probably my favorite shade of blue. Cause I'm bougie.

Gil:

I like that.

Eric:

I guess I would say white too, or like maybe a cream color. So black, blue and

Gil:

yeah, in a cream. Okay. Yeah, because mine is I like a light gray. Okay. Like a Heather Gray. I love that. I like green, but it's more like a sage. Okay. I don't like a deep forest. I like a, more of a, this, a Sage green, like a rustic green. And then I like blue. But it's like, how do I explain it? The blue actually got it's it's a very, this is a very specific one. It's the hundredth anniversary KitchenAid. There was like a, it's like this, not baby blue, but it's a, more of a tip somewhere would be like close to your Tiffany's blue. Isn't that,

Eric:

that Tiffany's

Gil:

pretty much, it's pretty damn near. Yeah. I love that blue. I like, what do I wear? I prefer Navy RP because of my skin tone Navy looks fantastic versus the light blue, but I do love that light blue. Like just if you're like, oh, what's your favorite color? Those are the three. And it sucks because when you know, living in Seattle, I like the color combination. I do. I love the Seahawk combinations, the hard to say out loud, but they have a terrible team and everyone about them is terrible. But I do like the color of that team.

Eric:

And I love him and Ciaratogether as a couple. Yeah. I know you that you just rolled your eyes at me. I hate Pete Carroll

Gil:

though. Fuck him. He's a piece of shit

Eric:

and I used to love USC, but he fucked up that team. He,

Gil:

yeah. Pete Carroll.

Eric:

What's your favorite book?

Gil:

Oh Lord.

Eric:

My cohost Eric's poetry book.

Gil:

That's my favorite. You can buy it on Amazon.

Eric:

I don't even know that you've read my book. Yes,

Gil:

I have. I went half way through. Not that it's a long book. It's just I'm slow in wherever we'll read. I think it's because I'm so used to having to read so many goddamn emails and I'm like, I don't want to, I'm just giving

Eric:

your shit.

Gil:

God. I'm like thinking about I grew up on the Harry Potter series. It's not one, any particular IB, I enjoyed reading that 1 19

Eric:

84. I've never seen nor have I ever read it,

Gil:

Eric.

Eric:

Hey, I'm not importing JK Rowling's and her transphobic ideals.

Gil:

It was written prior. We didn't realize it. No, I know,

Eric:

but now that's my excuse.

Gil:

Yeah I guess in 1984 would be another from George Orwell. That I enjoyed. Yeah. I would probably somewhere in that ballpark look it up my little collection. I have a small amount. Yeah, let's go with, let's go with that. I've been reading the land of stories from Chris Colfer who was on glee. I've been supporting him. I don't know why I'm like, oh my God. Excited. But that's really it. Like I said, it's just absolutely. I read so much at work, all these corporate bullshit. I'm like, I don't want to read what is the favorite book that someone's read to you?

Eric:

Yes, because I don't read, say true you, which is a Janet, which is a book by Janet Jackson. Okay. Yeah I go through spurts, I guess a couple of years ago I decided I was like, oh, I want to start reading again because people who read, have beautiful diction and syntax and speak so well. So I was like, I want to read more. My favorite book of all time, actually might shock. A lot of people is Les Mis. Cause it's a thick ass book. I love it's to me it's a very emotional story. So I love Les Mis a lot. Shockingly. And then of books that I've read as of recently, which weren't really that west wasn't really that recent was beautiful boy and tweak, which are they're like companion books, so beautiful boy is about a father's recollection of his son going through addiction. They made a movie about it. Steve Carell and Timothee Chalamet. And then tweak is the son's recount of what his life was like. Okay. And I will say like the movie in itself is good, but the books are by far better and you get a lot more detail and you got a lot more graphic information. The movie, like if you didn't know that the movie was related to the movie being related to the books, it's not the best movie, but the movie on its own not being related to the books, it's a really good movie. So I still, so I guess I would say those are the last two books. I not the last two books I read, but two books that made an impact on me that were, that I read. And then

Gil:

Les Mi s. Okay. Yeah. That's awesome. Okay. So what is something that you cannot wait for?

Eric:

Janet Jackson's new album? Her tour,

Gil:

her doctor will come in.

Eric:

Yeah. She was supposed to release it last year. It was called it's called black diamond. Oh. And she was, had was going on tour. The album was going to drop and then COVID hit,

Gil:

oh shit. Okay.

Eric:

Now back in the studio rerecording. And so yeah, that's supposed to be coming out soon. I'm assuming it's going to come out around the same time as the documentary in January. So

Gil:

those are the way to kick

Eric:

off the year. Things I'm looking forward to that are like more in my grasp. I would say like things that will probably actually happen for me. I'm looking forward to the day I. And more financially secure and that I actually have a boyfriend or a husband and I have my Afghan and I have a bunch of show dogs.

Gil:

Yes, absolutely.

Eric:

And I have my Mercedes electric car that Mercedes is about to drop the electric car.

Gil:

Oh, that's gonna be interesting. Yeah. I really didn't know. Janet was having a new album coming out also. Yeah. Damn good times. Cause normally you would. I would, I know that only when, cause your page would have told me. Yeah, you don't be advertised for her ready to go. That's why I'm like, I haven't seen anything. I'm like, oh no. I was looking on Instagram. I haven't seen anything.

Eric:

I posted a few things, but yeah, I probably not. Cause I probably did last year, but because there's no word on when the album is actually being released. So I can't say anything yet. Okay.

Gil:

I'm sure I'll hear it. Yeah. Yeah. I finally I'm on Twitter now, so I'm like, oh, what's this. She has popped up on my feed. Because of me, I probably it's all changing my algorithm. I'm like, wait,

Eric:

because my Twitter is like porn politics. And Janet actually even had friends. I love you. You're a great person, but I can't follow your Twitter. And I'm like, I get it. That's a lot of porn.

Gil:

I have so many like new stuff that I'm doing there and Bart updates. Cause Lord knows what we're never on time. There's always a delay. So that's what I rely on. Let's see, for me, I'm looking forward to next year, just in general. I think next year, hopefully we'll be better. And I keep saying that we're planning a trip to Europe, like I said is all in theory at this point, but we're doing like a like booking. So that's what we're doing like a little family, my mom, my sister, me and my husband. It's the Chris. The four of us. Oh fun. Yeah. So we're aiming towards may, may of next year. That should hopefully everything

Eric:

be okay. Oh. So we might have to be on hiatus a little bit, a little

Gil:

bit. It won't be too long, over two weeks. So that's something

Eric:

thinks of you, he is scheduling a vacation during our

Gil:

podcast. I'll be recording live from Europe. Yeah. So that's what I'm thinking right now. Like a tangible thing I have other things where I cannot wait to start my new little job here coming Monday. So hopefully I'll have a schedule ready to go. Obviously kicking off the family process also, and then getting a new car. Cause I love my little baby car, but it's getting more and more expensive to repair everything.

Eric:

All right. So you've got a hybrid or electric. Yeah.

Gil:

I'm going to have to, because of California where it thinks, okay. It's going to be mandated anyways. Okay. Yeah. So now I'm starting to look, cause I don't want to just get a electric car just because it's healthy, but also I still need to look cute if especially if I'm gonna be paying for it. I'm sorry. The vanity just kicked into me with that because I cannot, yeah. I need to still look cute. Cause no friends with the Prius. Like they're just not to be. Yeah. I'll see. I'll see what

Eric:

I'm getting insight, okay. I hope that's okay.

Gil:

Yeah. That's something right now. Yeah.

Eric:

What is your worst habits?

Gil:

Oh, Jesus. A habit of mine saying I'm going to be there and being late. Because I do run on like mixture between Filipino and Spanish time. I've gone into worse as I've gotten older or suddenly I'm like, oh, I need I admit I've gotten worse on that. I it's funny because like I historically procrastinate on in my, like in college and paperwork, I was never late on paperwork nor was I ever asked for an extension. I just was always rushed, but like definitely one of my habits of oh yeah, I'll see you in five minutes. I'll be there in 10 minutes and it's 40 minutes later then I'm like slowly rolling in. Okay. Yeah. That's why I'm glad I'm a salaried worker.

Eric:

Sure. So I am a, I'm a huge procrastinator. I'm very similar in the fact that if I say. Be somewhere say I'm supposed to if I'm supposed to be at work at nine o'clock I'm getting there somewhere between 8 58 and 9 0 5. Yeah, no, I'm with you on that. I push everything to the very last possible minute oh, I can get two more minutes of sleep. Because

Gil:

my podcasts, like six minutes per to logging on, I take a little quick siesta and I'm like, what time does he said, okay, I'll be up in six minutes.

Eric:

So I am a procrastinator. Definitely. I do run late, but I'm also super impatient. So it's I can be late, but if someone has me waiting, I get really irritated. If I have to wait for something. Not necessarily when someone but something to happen, like if I'm expecting something delivered or if I'm expecting a new song to come out, then I'm like, where is it? Where is it? Where is it? Where is it? Where is it? I'm very impatient when it comes to things like that. Oh,

Gil:

swiper friends.

Eric:

Those are probably my, those are two of my worst habits. I'm also very like self-loathing and I all that other stuff, but I'm working on that. Though, interesting. I used to bite my nails really bad. I just chew on my nails and go to town. My nails. I have not been in my nails in over a year. Oh, good. So that was a bad habit that, yeah, it was a bad habit that I broke. So I was very

Gil:

happy about that job with that one. Yeah. Oh yeah. I'm slowly working on that. I will I'm with you. Like I will do not inconvenience me. I get so annoyed inconvenience, a gay it's like literally hell breaks out all my life.

Eric:

Gaze will inconvenience you because you

Gil:

have to be fashionably late. Absolutely. It's something I've come to terms with before. I'm like, I'm always on time and I'm like, no, I'm not. I be like rolling into work. And I'm like, with my coffee, if you see me without a coffee and I'm so late. Oh, I'm not happy. Everyone's steers clear. Yeah.

Eric:

Yeah. I'm just never on time. Now when it came to dance and acting, I was always like an hour early. But when it comes to work, I'm like, oh, I'm supposed to be there at nine. Okay. It's 9 0 5. I still need to go get my tea and something to eat

Gil:

my political science classes. I would show up about 30 minutes, 40 minutes early. Just ready to go. Yeah. Very sporadic.

Eric:

And then like in school I never had to, I was the same way. Like I would write my papers, like at the very last possible second and then have all my references to site and everything else. I like when I was going to, for my master's in Asian medicine, I had the worst study habits. So like I used to do study groups and one other, one of the girls I used to study with, she was like hardcore study person. Like she would say 75 hours a day. She wrote everything out like multiple times and in different colors and all kinds of it was intense. And then like me I remember I would be studying and I'd be like, I was studying like really hard for two hours. And then I'd be like, okay, now I'm going to watch TV for an hour. And then I would go back and then I would like to study and I'm like, okay. Study for 45 minutes and then go back and watch TV for an hour. And then I would like study for a half an hour, go watch TV for a half an hour to an hour, then study for a half an hour. And then I haven't done. I've studied way too much. Let me watch TV again. I remember one time I was setting for like a huge test and I followed that same format that I just meant. I was like, oh, say yes to the dresses on, let me just watch this instead. And I was talking to a friend of mine. She's you have to have priority. Say yes to the dress is much more important than studying. And I was like, I agree. She was in the same school as I was. So

Gil:

yeah, I love it because I was the same thing where if I said to someone, oh, I'm going to be studying. Especially during the day. Because I would have everything ready out. Like I'm going to study, I'd be on my space, making a side comment, updating my pro my status updates and all that kind of stuff obviously, or Denae. And I used to rent out in the what is it, the fine arts library. He could rent out the rooms, the study rooms. So we'd bring our lunch upstairs, naturally open up all of her books, everything that's. If we're going to study stare at the Sandias, take a nap. You don't do everything but study. And then I'm of course up until about four in the morning, just hammering out my papers, but I'm the kind of person like, I need to map it out, have my thought process in order. And then once I go for it, it's, I'm sitting there until.

Eric:

And then you have a friend who's let's go out, let's go to the club. And you're like, I have to do these papers. Oh, you'll be home by two 30. You have an hour and a half.

Gil:

My mom's from listening to this as you want. Like

Eric:

that's all my classes

Gil:

I did. There's a degree sitting on my wall that I'm not using, but it's there. They can't take it away.

Eric:

You and me shit.

Gil:

The burden of being our generation, we're over qualified and not at the same time. Okay. So Eric yes. Last question. Okay. Sex on the first date.

Eric:

Sure. Why not? No. So I know people who are very much about oh, I will only like on a third date rule or three to six months into the relationship, then we'll sleep together. I don't have a problem sleeping with someone on the first dates. I also will say I've never really been in a long-term relationship. Like my longest relationship only been like a few months. So maybe that's why. Cause I give the milk out for free, like on the first date the

Gil:

flash sale.

Eric:

I don't, I, I think it's fine. I'm sure it's situational. Yeah. I have gone on first days where I'm like, I don't want to do anything and I haven't. But then I've also gone on first dates or I'm like, I don't want to do anything. Oh yeah, we're totally doing this now. Yeah, I honestly don't have an issue with sex on her first date. But I also am in the hookup scene and I will hook up with somebody and for no date,

Gil:

skip the milk and cookies.

Eric:

Yeah. And I also you can see if you're physically compatible.

Gil:

Yeah. Cause I'd rather test the car out before marriage because you would never just buy a car based on looks. So they call it a day and then you realize you hate the car. Yeah. Yeah.

Eric:

Cause I've had some beautiful cars that did not handle and I've had some clunkers that gave me the best rides of my life. Correct.

Gil:

You'd be shocked. Yes. I'm with you. Okay, let me put it this way. Now that I'm married, I'm going to be telling my child. Absolutely not. Not before marriage. I waited six months after marriage.

Eric:

I'm going to come behind you and bullshit.

Gil:

It really depends on the person because I've been on some dates where I'm, there's there's no absolutely way in hell that we are ever going to get physically near each other. Yeah. It's very situational. I've had it all in and nothing materialized after that. I don't know if I feel like if I, I don't know. It just, it

Eric:

depends. Did you and Chris have sex on the first date? No, we

Gil:

actually didn't. Okay. And you guys, we waited actually several dates.

Eric:

Several married. So maybe there is something to say for

Gil:

maybe. Yeah, I don't know. But even my first one, I, he and I waited

Eric:

well. Yeah, but that was like every 7.6 for three months.

Gil:

Shit.

Eric:

Yeah. Wasn't it. 5.6,

Gil:

four months. It's five fleet every five months. A little over five and a half months. Yeah. Mike, get an action.

Eric:

You might get just the tip, like against your thigh. And I'm like,

Gil:

oh gosh. Oh, that's so terrible. That's being in a relationship. I'm like, what's the benefit?

Eric:

That's my thing. I was like, I want a relationship just so I can have like access to sex, like 24 7. I don't need him for anything. I

Gil:

got the rest.

Eric:

No, I actually would like a relationship for more than just that, but that would definitely be a perk. It

Gil:

helps. It definitely helps if you guys are compatible. Because in a relationship it's so much, there's so much good, so many working parts that are happening at the same time. But I think a lot of people forget that like even in marriage it's all happening. It's there's not oh, what'd you say I do. Then there's like this magic erase and everything's fine until death. Like it's a day. Check-in it's like being at work. It's a continuous relationship. Like it's, you're gonna have your good days, bad days. And and things in between, you've got some dull moments. You're going to have stretches of dull also where everything's just vanilla, but it's how do you keep it going? And how do best communicate and like me, I have me, I needed somebody to offset some of my minimal shortcoming. Like I say, I'm practically perfect. I'm not perfect. I'm practically. And I need

Eric:

one of your

Gil:

attributes at all. And I, that's something like for me I knew immediately I couldn't get somebody as strong will this meet because we will collide. There's one fucking rose in this relationship and that's me. But not that I don't need someone to help me though, because I do have my moments. I

Eric:

think Chris is pretty strong-willed he has different ways.

Gil:

Wait, but it's not in a conflict of me. Okay. Yeah. I need that because I don't want a doorman either. I've been on some days

Eric:

I

Gil:

can be. Okay. Not all the time. I've learned to cope with being with him. I've retract. Is it in me? Abso-fucking-lutely it's there, but I've learned over the years. Okay. Yeah. To reel it in at times, which I've addressed and I'm like, okay, that's not good. Yeah. But it's there the fire. Awesome. But that's my advice. And my things that it that's the way it is. Yeah. Because sex is wonderful and it should be hopefully in a relationship in a consensual

Eric:

way. Obviously we're speaking completely consensually. Sex is not always wonderful though. Yeah, that's true. But I guess again, I would say though, like relational sex is actually there just because of intimacy, it is better than just regular sex. Yeah. But, I've had some mindblowing regularly hookup sex before too. Probably the best sex I've ever had was hookup sex. But yeah, I guess it's situational, but I think a level of intimacy does add to

Gil:

it does. Yeah. But like when the sex goes away or something like this, it's like for me, personality kicks in. That's when all those other things everyone says, oh, I looked for, it's beyond the looks. It's all about their inner beauty. You don't see that it's something that's over

Eric:

time. You will see. Yeah. Do you think it's an important point that you just made, there needs to be more than sex your relationship? That's not worth having that relationship because there's going to be times where that's just not going to be. I think that's going to happen. It's not going to be a situation you're going to be in. Ed does happen. So either it has to be more, there has to be a substance. There has to be something for you to hold onto other than the joystick,

Gil:

just for any listeners out there. Because I know we have those people but he's 12 inches big and I don't want to leave him. It don't mean anything. No, you go find another. I'm very confident. You will find

Eric:

another good sex and the right lies can make a person waste a lot

Gil:

of their life. Oh yes. And a mic drop right there.

Eric:

you guys all for listening to us, I know we babbled a lot. We just want to give you guys a chance to get to know us a little bit more and we will I want, I just want to say, see you guys next week, but we don't see you guys and you don't see us, but we'll be around next week. So our voices are here. Yes. So take care and thank you guys for joining us.

Gil:

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Eric:

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