April 19, 2023
Season 5, Episode 10
Eric and Gil continue their discussions on hot topics
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Eric:Hello and welcome to the Q Lounge, a podcast where we like to discuss news, stories, and life situations as they relate to the lgbtqia plus experience. I am Eric.
Gil:And I'm Gil. You said that so nicely. Oh, did I one? Yeah. I was like, damn, I want you for my screen. Sorry. Everyone just, I was like, wow, Eric, go ahead. Good composure. I, anyways,
Eric:let's continue. I think I have a lot of practice saying that now. Yeah, probably. And yeah, I'm used to breathing with a lot of stuff in my mouth now, so I can just do it in one breath, like
Gil:I got this.
Eric:Oh gosh. There's a lot of shit that happened. So I know our newest episode dropped today, the day we're recording and you and I were talking in the precast how we hope you guys listen to that episode, but it's also very irrelevant now because so much stuff has just happened since then. Even after we recorded the episode, I had to put in a Yeah. Little addendum or appendices or whatever you wanna call it attachment to discuss it. So let's just go ahead and start there. Correct. And then I guess mu over what's happening in this country and in this world. And. In our personal lives or however we're gonna attack this.
Gil:There's just so much. There's a lot,
Eric:lot of shit. I don't, it's overwhelming. It's exhausting. It is. It gives us something to talk about. Mike Bonnie Rate said, let's give him something to talk about. Oh Lord. If anyone who doesn't know who that is, she was a singer from like the eighties, seventies, eighties, nineties. But she just won a Grammy too, so Yeah, she did. Yes, she did. That's the one I was like, oh, who's that? I'm like, really? Come on now,
Gil:Lord, you guys like a YouTube, click away. iTunes, whatever you guys wanna pull up. I'm sorry, apple Music. Oh shit. Showing my age.
Eric:I use Apple Music too. Yeah.
Gil:So the Tennessee three. Yes. The Tennessee three left. Tennessee three.
Eric:So they, so we, I put in the little. Add on that after we recorded that they did expel Justin Jones and Justin Pearson. Correct. They did not expel Gloria Johnson. Yep. By one vote. We all know why.
Gil:Yes. She said it herself
Eric:too. She said it herself. Look at the color of my skin. Yeah. So yeah, there's that. I, let's just go ahead and get it out of the way and then we can discuss. I want, I wanted to dive into that and dissect it a little bit, but they were both reinstated Justin Jones reinstated as of Monday, correct. Landslide vote to bring him back. Correct. And Pearson was reinstated today. Today,
Gil:Yeah. As we're recording this. It happened a couple hours ago. Yes.
Eric:Yeah. So thank God. Yes. I'm glad that people spoke and we're like, hell no. We want these people there, they are listening to their constituents. They are being the voice for their constituents, and they are legitimately doing what their constituents want, unlike all these other representatives who do whatever the fuck they want or whoever the people are, who's patting their pockets wants. Correct. I just had to get that out of the way. So first off, I want to say this, you have a per, and we may have mentioned this in the last episode, you have a person who was accused of sexual assault. And child molestation, I believe, right? Yes. You have a person who admitted to domestic violence and you have a person who also I believe admitted to fraud. Yes. And none of them were expelled. Nothing was done. None for them. Nothing. You had another person who peed on another representative seat? Yes. And nothing happened. And I don't remember his name, but he's the one who's been speaking all over the news saying they owe us an apology. This, they know what we've been trying to do for the last year and for them to disrespect us. That guy, yes. Apparently at a basketball game got mad at the official for the way he made a call and pantsed him.
Gil:Y yes. Not expelled
Eric:though. And not expelled. So we are supposed to believe that they are doing what's right for the people here in Tennessee by expelling the two young black men from the State House. And I wanna add this too, because the lawmakers of Shelby County, which is where Memphis is, right? So not, I know it's of Shelby County. I know. What am I trying to say? It wasn't like the local policymakers, it was like the people who are within the house. Were basically trying to say that if Shelby County reinstated Justin Pearson, that they were gonna pull all funding from Shelby County, which was like
Gil:predominantly minority. Yes.
Eric:Yes. And that was also gonna be like renovations to like stadiums and arenas and touristy stuff. Yes. Now I know that the mayor said that, Stuff that was already guaranteed would, that wouldn't affect stuff that was already guaranteed. So there was like that loophole around, but I know they were being threatened with that. And the constituents of that area were stating that basically they're trying to bully us into submission and they're trying to silence us. Yeah, exactly. Sorry, I had to say all that. I'm sorry, Gil. I like took 30 minutes to get all of my grievances out on this topic. No,
Gil:but that is to me, you don't put, you don't use our tax money as a bargaining chip Exactly. To say I'm not gonna do it cuz you don't agree with me that, what the fuck are we adults? If you wanna act like a five-year old, go back to preschool, go back to your kindergarten class, or you can act Well, you can't read a book anymore. Yeah. It, that just, it's absolutely
Eric:ridiculous. But go ahead. No, go ahead. I was gonna make a side comment, but we'll get to that story later. So go ahead.
Gil:No, it's just, it's I don't get it. I really just, it's stupid. Yes. Like I, these voters need to really just look about who they put at office. Yes. And that's the thing. It's I, regardless of how I feel about like the church or certain things, if something happened to them you're still gonna fund the correct avenues and they're gonna take care of them. Or somebody was dying at a church, the same thing. You would just make sure that the police or whoever's gonna get over there, gets over there. The prof, it doesn't enter.
Eric:I will still fight for your right to worship however you want to worship. I will fight for your right to be religious. I believe that you should be able to be, I have no issue with it whatsoever. I, myself am not religious. But I believe you have your right to do what's best for you and believe how you want to believe in whatever's gonna make you a better person. Yeah. So I don't know why it went on that tangent, but,
Gil:but that's the part of the issue with it. It's almost like you must do, as we say. Must follow, must look. And I'm just, and the, every time we keep saying, oh my God, this sounds just like Nazi Germany from the 1930s. It is, it's because stop following the damn handbook. They're literally following in line and they're like, this is not, we're not like them. Change it up then. Cause you kinda are,
Eric:you kinda are with all your bans, your trans bans, your drag bans, the fact that Kansas, and this was a story I was gonna mention earlier, the fact that Kansas has now made it legal or they're trying to pass the law in which they, you can what's the word? I keep forgetting the word. What's the word? It's pretty much
Gil:looking, if you suspect anything, you can inspect the inspect,
Eric:that's the word. I keep forgetting that word. Inspect. You can inspect a child's genitalia if you ex if you think that they may be trans. If you suspect that they may be trans.
Gil:And this was, correct me if I'm wrong, ve they ve the governor vetoed it and they overturned it.
Eric:Yes. Because just like Kentucky, the legislature can overturn. Yeah. The governor. So I'm like, what's the point of having the governor and having governor's veto power if they can overturn you anyways? Cuz the same, something similar happened in Kentucky just recently where they had a trans van and they, the governor vetoed it for trans athletes and they were like, oh, we're just gonna overturn it. Gerrymandering. Yeah. It's all gerrymandering.
Gil:It's explains the same thing. Just like in Tennessee, you're never gonna see Congress or whatever their congress group be a Democrat. Yeah. They split just like what is in Nashville, I believe. Split that bitch into three ways. They say that. So it used to be a solid Democrat area to somebody. They split the Democrat area in three different ways into Republican heavy
Eric:counties. And they're saying that the way Tennessee is gerrymandered makes it like, basically like ultra Republican. You're
Gil:never, they're not gonna win. Yeah. The Democrats will not win unless they figure out how to un gerrymandered
Eric:the damn thing. Yeah. But then you just have, what was, it didn't Scotus just side with, was it North Carolina? Where they said that the state can gerrymandered or redistrict the way they seem fit. They deemed
Gil:fit. They deem fit, yeah. For the people, for the children. Eric?
Eric:The children. Yes. For the children. Speaking of Kentucky, they just had a mass shooting and a mass killing. Prayers protect, five people were killed, six were injured.
Gil:But we should just rename our podcast deal. Like the, that's all we do is talk about who's killed today. Which state is it? Yeah.
Eric:And there, the thing is there was another shooting, like within I wanna say like a few minutes to, a couple hours after that mass shooting. Yeah. Not far from it. But it didn't get covered. No. Yeah I am saddened and angered by the fact that in this country it's just par for the course. Like it's just any other, And most people are super numb to it now, and oh, we might talk about it for the minute that it happens and then two hours later or the next day, we've all forgotten about it. And I think it's really disgusting that we as a country, not everybody, obviously, cuz I'm not this way. I know you're not like this and I know plenty of other people who are not like this, but most people are just like, yeah, whatever. It happens. I'm like, I refuse to get numb to that shit. Correct. Like people jump all over me often oh my gosh, you're you follow such negative stories, you talk about such negative things. You, are you okay? Is your mental health okay? Because you're always talking about super depressing shit and you're always like finding all these really hardcore, depressing stories. I don't wanna, and I'm not seeking them out, they just happen every fucking day. And I'm having a reaction to them because everyone else in this country, we're living in our sympathetic systems and we're all about fight flight fawn or freeze now. And that's how we live our lives. And I would love to have a day where I got to be in my parasympathetic and just rest and relax and digest and everything else and just be like, oh yeah, everything is kumbaya. But that's just not our reality, sadly enough. Yeah. And I'm also not going to be silent and not talk about it because then I'm being complicit and I'm just allowing it to happen. And at least I'm not gonna get, I'm not, I refuse to be numb to it cuz those people's lives mean something to other people. Yeah. And those, the people were, those were someone's kids. They, yeah, someone's kids.
Gil:Someone's wife. Parents. Exactly. Yeah. No, I, I know. It's just, it's like at this point, it's just a statistic. That's what they all become. It's, we're at that point where it's just, oh, here's another one. Thoughts and prayers, quick little copy paste. Like it said, the blood wasn't even dry on the damn concrete and immediately just another one. In the same fucking city. Yep. And the lawmakers are just nothing we could do about it.
Eric:Yeah. Nothing we can do about
it.
Gil:Nothing we could do about it. So I'm just confused. Why are they in office? Yeah. There's nothing they could do.
Eric:Let's not act on emotion now and attack the poor guns, but then we're gonna get all up and create some bogus emotion and some bogus tragedy and going after the trans community and going after the drag community. Yeah.
Gil:For a minority party in this country. The amount of shit that we're, like I said, we're just always, we're always abiding by this minority group. They're what, 29%? Yeah. And then that's the thing, it just, it's mind boggling to me what they are a mi they are a minority party and they cause so much fucking havoc. Yeah, absolute cause havoc. And then they wonder why our generation is all about shutting them down. It's like reversing. And that's all we're spending our time. It's not, I can't, we can't move forward. Oh, let's have flying cars, but let's go green. I can't even talk about going green at this point because it's all about how the fuck do we keep not losing my rights tomorrow. Exactly. The minority party doing something stupid. It's just, it's, oh my God. It's just, I'm just tired of it. I'm like,
Eric:well, and that's the thing is that they're keeping us in this, again, sympathetic or fight. Fight or flight. Yeah. Response. Mentality and living situation. And the fact that we're just all living to now survive. Correct. Like you said, we're just living for our rights. Yeah. We're fighting for our rights. The thing is, as people, those people in power are trying to change the narrative to be like, oh, they're trying to take our rights away. No, we just want equal rights. Equal rights doesn't mean you have less rights. They now they do say that, like, when you're used to having all these rights over everybody else, then they start to have rights. It may appear that you have less rights, but No, it's just a level playing field now. Your rights are not being changed.
Gil:Yeah. They've never
Eric:changed. No. Being inconvenienced and being oppressed are two different things. Correct. And a lot of people don't understand that. It's like people don't understand that privilege doesn't mean I grew up rich. Yeah. People wanna say I wasn't privileged. I worked my ass off to pay off this. Or I worked my ass off for this and I didn't have money. That's not what it means.
Gil:We know a poor white person will still have more opportunities than a minority. Yes, we know that. Yes. That's a proven fact. Yes. Job placements your area that you're living in, quality of food in the area that you're living in. Quality water. Yeah. Water and basic stuff. We know that you're already gonna be in a much better it and that's why
Eric:it just you look at all the industrialization that has happened around minority pockets in cities. That's not by mistake. Yeah. That is air quality. We're going to, that's why you have such a high in incidence of asthma asthmatics. But yeah. And then you have people like Clarence Thomas, who's like going on all these fucking rich billionaire excursions paid for by his friends. Yeah. And is oh, it's okay. It's okay. And the thing is he's told on himself too, because he said that, oh, my, my friend, my who just happens to be rich, decided to take me on these vacations. We've been friends for 25 years. You've sat on SCOTUS for 30. Yeah. So it doesn't work that way
Gil:in the same thing. It's just if I, in a normal job which I've had those jobs before, it's Detailed list of what you can and cannot accept from a vendor. Yeah. We could be terminated. If you found out kickbacks, like I, I don't understand. How is he not aware of what a kickback could possibly be? They're not spending a money on you because, oh my God, you're, some cool guy to hang out with. No one said that. No, he's a Supreme Court justice. They know Bills could potentially end up in his diary. You wanna make sure he's favoritism happens. Yeah,
Eric:we know that. He's, as it is, trying to kill a disclosure law so that they can keep getting all their billionaire gifts and look at what happened with his wife too. He refused to recuse himself from any trial in which she might have been brought up because of her participation in the January 6th insurrection, which
Gil:she did. Yes. In it's clear documentation that this is not a guess or hope or, oh, we're get, creating a story on this is proven fact. There's documents for this one. And same thing, it's just, I, if I hired somebody, my direct family member to work under me, that would not happen. First off, because it would be conflict of interest. Same thing here. It's a conflict of interest. We know it's, but again, how does he not know someone who's in a position that is term,
Eric:yeah. Again, term limits, please, on scotus everyone is term everyone. So a lot of these judges now are, they're just, they're all about patting their own pockets. And they're all about pushing their agenda. So here's my thing, and I've talked about this many times off the pod, and I Sure I've said it at least one to a thousand times on the pod as well. If your religion dictates how you make your decisions you have no business in law, politics, or medicine. Yeah. At all. If you're basing your decisions on your religion, then you have no business in those fields because now you're dictating how other people can live their lives. Look at the judge in Texas who just decided to try to put a nationwide ban on Mifepreston. Correct. Saying that, oh, the F D A was wrong when they made their decision 23 years ago Correct. And now we're gonna bring it up and say that they were wrong. And look at all these, now that opens up for all these other medications now. Yeah.
Gil:I don't think people really see the big photo on the, especially when the bills are written so fucking vaguely that they are. And that's what they are. They'll maybe mention a little bit of here and there, but they'll do a general thing obviously, because their goal is to pass it. But it's the same thing of what, and I guess my question has always been is what constitutional issue is at it at hand right now? By banning this what interest does it of the state? Your personal belief is that's great, that's wonderful. But what does it for the general public? Yeah. It doesn't, you have no fucking business. The government has no business in it between you and your the health professional.
Eric:And again, since we're talking, since we're talking mifepreston. The abortion pill. If you don't agree with abortions, then don't get one. It's simple. That's your choice to not have one Fine. What about all these embryos? And I think we've talked about this too. Cause I know this is a point of debate. What about all these embryos for in vitro fertilization? And then it's oh, we had our child. We don't need the embryos anymore. Dispose of them. By definition of what you're, of where you're saying life begins. Yeah. All those embryos in the Petri dish have their right to life. And then it's just interesting also because then you have the judge in Washington who was like, no, you, you definitely can't ban this. And he made his decision came out, what, like a couple hour, two to three hours later. Hours, hour. Yeah. Right after right after saying no, these 17 states plus DC have the right to. Pills and all this other stuff, so you can't ban it. So now it's, I know the Biden administration is appealing the Texas judge's opinion. But and he gave him like a, what was it, seven days to appeal. But I know that they've already put through an emergency appeal submitted. This is going to just like fast track it to the SCOTUS though, most likely. Correct. And we all know where they stand. Look at Dobbs. Correct.
Gil:And this is why voting for your local politicians and all that,
Eric:it's very, no, I was shocked though that SCOTUS said that the, there was a trans. In West Virginia who the state was trying to ban from participation and SCOTUS said, us Scotus said, no, they have a right to play. Cuz you had Kavanaugh, Gorsuch and Barrett who, and apparently Roberts who cited with the three. And you basically had Alito and Thomas were like, no,
Gil:this is such a, this court is so fucked up.
Eric:Yeah. The court is beyond fucked.
Gil:Yeah. It would be different if this is a conservative group, but they're still making to me sound judgment. In the interest of the people they're looking in from a very. And I think that's also where the conflict begins, because for me, I've always, to me the Constitution is living and breathing. It's meant to be updated, it's meant to be edited. This is not something that they made, this is not like the Bible or the commandments, and it's this, is it not
Eric:according to the Scalia of the world.
Gil:Correct. Correct. But to the, Ruth Fair again, Ginsburg kind of thing. This the, it's a living, breathing document and that's the way I've always viewed it. Like when I was in school and stuff like that. I've always viewed the constitutions as continuation this, guidance. It's something that, it, it should evolve with its people as you're going otherwise the agreement for it or to uphold it, what's the point? Because we don't agree, to me, otherwise, the society to me goes away. If we don't feel that the rights are protecting us, because why would I pay? Like I said, all these people tax money, For them to protect me if they're not really gonna protect me. Yeah. Like that. To me, that's the stupidest thing. That what, why am I here? I'm not paying you to attack me or to not have my best interest or for clean water. I'm giving them money so that it can be fine so that you guys can take care of it. Exactly. It's to me, the simplest fucking thing. I don't understand. I want rights. I'm an American citizen. This is my, God-given, this is your agreement to me upon being born in this country.
Eric:But only if you fit into my mold, and you fit into my expectations of what and who you are, it's all about me and what I want.
Gil:All short-term gain, short-term gains. Yeah. Oh my gosh. This shit show.
Eric:Shockingly, a federal judge extended the block on Tennessee's drag ban. Good. Yeah. And we see, I wanted that last but good quote. If Tennessee wishes to exercise its police power in restricting speech, it considers obscene. It must do so within the constraints and framework of the United States constitution, it missed the mark. That's a quote for judge.
Gil:Yeah. And a lot of that has to go after. It's the was it the first amendment? So people remember before the Second Amendment, there's the number first one. That one doesn't count though. Yeah. That's the and that's the thing that I'm shocked people have been started arguing already. It went after them. Yeah. Because they're allowing a lot of these, oh, I'm gonna band this band that. I'm like, but freedom expression, I don't understand. It's, Yeah. Then
Eric:you have what they're doing. What Florida, whose anti-d drag bill is considered so extreme that it would ban stuff like the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Correct. Which I actually still have not seen and hair the musical. Yeah. I'm surpri I'm sure it would ban Misses Doubtfire too. It would,
Gil:yeah. Because it falls right under it. You're thinking about a lot of the, cross-dressing and all that. Portion of the fucking Bugs Bunny and all that, the loo tunes. We, I mean we grew up watching that. They're cross-dressing.
Eric:The, so I saw this article, I, it just came across my desk that, I guess like the, I guess like the Travel Advisory board of Florida has stated that unless you have like pertinent business in Florida, you should not be traveling to Florida due to all their strong anti l g lgbtqia A plus legislation. Which I found very interesting.
Gil:That's interesting. But that's what they want. Yeah.
Eric:They're doing a, they're doing a cleansing, an ethnic cleansing, basically. That's what this country is trying to do. We went through, a
Gil:portion of the country's trying to do it.
Eric:Yeah. A portion of the country. 26 states. Yeah. Over half the country, yeah. You have Utah, Idaho, Montana, North Dakota, South Dakota, Nebraska, Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas, Missouri, Iowa, Indiana, Ohio, West Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee Kentucky. Did I say Alabama, Georgia. Mississippi. Louisiana, Alaska are all and New Hampshire are all not safe places for. The trans community and we went through the other what is it, two episodes ago? The stages of genocide. Yeah.
Gil:This is why we don't get
Eric:comfortable. No, we don't. You can't get comfortable. Like I said, you talking about privilege earlier, privilege is the fact that you don't have to worry about whether your rights are gonna be taken away every time the administration changes. Yeah.
Gil:And this is what minorities as a whole, like I said, as we start and maybe it's just wrangling cats at this point, raging Democrats together to get on the same age. But I think it's definitely getting smart about if one minority group is getting attacked, we're all getting attacked. And even within the gay community, we get all, I've seen one too many snarky gays where there's just Especially some of the younger ones where it's oh, I don't have to worry about it. I don't know what you guys are all freaking out about, honey. You could be gay in high school because we paid that fucking road for you to walk and sache through. Yes. Let's, cut the shit, but the same thing. The trans community's gonna get attacked in a lot of white, white gays. We know that. Sitting on the loins. What's going on? Oh my God. It's, is it really affecting me? It doesn't affect me. I'm not trans, I'm not, but they're part of my community. Absolutely. They're of greater, of good. Absolutely.
Eric:And the thing is that trans rights are human rights. Correct. Gay rights are human rights. Black rights are human rights. Latino rights are human rights. Asian rights are human rights. Women's rights are human rights. No, you do need to be concerned because as we've talked about it, and this is what happens again with your stages of genocide and everything else, is that we pick off one group. We pick off another group. Eventually you've picked off so many groups, and now guess what? Even though you have that white privilege and even that white male privilege, you still have that gay component, and now everyone else that was quote unquote below you in so social status. Now you're at the bottom. So guess who we're picking off next? And guess what? There's no one there to help you or defend you because you turned your backs on everyone who is now gone.
Gil:Correct. And the other thing is, this isn't a competition that who's being more discriminated within minority. And this is something that I would challenge a lot of minority groups with. And I understand there's historical context of how the white people, try to create minority. What is it? The model minorities and putting certain groups against Pinn, other groups against each other that but at the same time as groups, we're all diff, we're all part of different groups and stuff like that. It's just we need to be smarter. We just need to be smarter. We're come on at this point
Eric:in time. Like you said, like you've said many times, once we join together, guess what? We are no longer the minority. We're the majority.
Gil:Yes. And the keep, I know we keep hearing it. Oh, Latinos are gonna become the largest, might they're gonna become the majority from a color-wise. Yeah. In a 2030s when we're supposed to officially, they're supposed to overtake white people. But the thing is, if you all combined. We're already past that. Yeah. So why are we waiting until one minority group suddenly becomes a majority? That's, I just never understood that.
Eric:It doesn't really make sense to me. And the thing is also is that it's about, again, like we've talked about, it's about human rights, human decency. That's what it comes down to,
Gil:Abortion, you and I are never gonna have a natural child in the sense, never we're gonna sleep with a woman. We're gonna have a, that's not happen. Never. We don't never. I'm for adoption right now, that's what we've been looking for, but what I'm, but it affects us. Yes, absolutely. That's the way we look. Anyone any per sentence rights is getting taken away. Should be red flag everyone. Absolutely. That's about, absolutely. I don't have to explain to myself. Spell it out for
Eric:y'all. Yeah. Like you said, I will never have to worry about that. But I am going to be vocal as fucking hell yeah. Once you take that right away and they have taken that right away. Yes. The fact that you have people who are having to flee their states so that they can find appropriate healthcare is sad. You have, these states are basically like third world countries now.
Gil:It is. It's just remember when, it's okay, in this state I'm a free black guy, but in this state I am still repre I'm going to be, under the Jim Crow laws and whatnot. No. People. That is a no-No. That's the thing happening now. Yeah. And that's the thing, it's a lot of these histories are not long ago. My grandparents. Remember when things were segregated completely with the whites only here colored people over here. Using verbiage we will never reiterate again. This happens within a couple of lifetimes ago. This is not something that's so farfetched or gone Nazi. Germany was about 90 years ago, 80 years ago. Yeah. We're not talking like this happened three, 400 years ago.
Eric:Look at Nelson Mandela. He was released in the nineties. Yes. That wasn't that long ago.
Gil:It really wasn't. People like, I don't get it. I really, I don't. Yeah. Like my great, for me, it would be my great-grandfather and that's how we got here. My mom's side, were able to, he started in World War ii. I, there's photos of me seeing him I don't know how to put things in perspective for other people. This isn't far along, like I said, this wasn't like, oh, back in the 16 hundreds.
Eric:Yeah, no,
Gil:I don't get it. If they want that kind of lifestyle, they could buy Mies, go back to that or go under a
Eric:queen. Yeah. And they can choose to live their life that
Gil:way, that way. But this country's not founded
Eric:on that principle. Yeah. But because you choose to live your life that way, doesn't mean the rest of us have to live our lives that way.
Gil:Correct. I feel like our country got hijacked. Yeah. Oh yeah. Because it did this democracy and all that. Isn't this co? And that's the one thing about the US where I know we have our, we have plenty of false beyond recognition, just like every other country. But the, we were founded on a theory, a concept that. Revolutionary for its time. We didn't start off with the king and queen have to go to revolution revolutions and off with everyone's fucking head to get to where we're thousand years later. We were founded on such a theory that it was just it's, we knew it was not perfect then. And it was a, it's a thing that we're striving for, but there are times where we have to get off ass and be like, you know what, no. This is not the direction we need to go because we will make errors in putting the wrong people in office. Or, oh, this is a joke, let's put 'em in law. Like this is people's lives in our country. It's high checked. And I would put it, I wouldn't put it politely anymore.
Eric:Oh no. You have, on
Gil:the flip side, I think Republicans, cuz they have literally turned z Millennial alpha as far left as you could get
Eric:at this point. Pretty much. There's a huge movement in the GOP par in the GOP world to was a suppress the vote for the younger voters and oh, the Democrats are going after all the young voters, and we need to stop the young voters from voting. What the fuck is that
Gil:like? Yeah. Oh, very China of them. They love to blame. They criticize. Yeah. They love to criticize
Eric:them, but the, again, they're creating a crisis that doesn't exist. For them it might be a crisis as far as they're losing power, but that's from their own doing. Yeah. I will say speaking of, cause we were, I was listing the states earlier. New Mexico is a safe state for anyone who is interested. Yes. Our governor signed SB 13, a safe state refuge bill for trans people and people seeking abortions and other reproductive healthcare. New Mexico will not comply out-of-state subpoenas around gender affirming care or abortion. So good job New Mexico for that. We'll,
Gil:New Mexico, she's in the middle. She's no.
Eric:Yeah, no, that's not gonna happen here. And this is a good point brought out too, like talking about gender affirming care. Yeah. You have people like who get hair transplants and who get breasts augmentation and who are on hormone replacement therapy. That's all gender affirming.
Gil:But that is I think, the vagueness of the
Eric:bills. Yeah. You have Florida now who is, has written a bill and I forgot what Bill it is. It's just it's one that they're talking and hoping to pass where it says it's very vaguely written where it basically states that what is deemed abusive towards a child is now, is punishable by death with a majority of eight to four jurors citing. And so it sounds Oh yeah, for the children. For the children. Who isn't against child? Correct. And if you oppose it, like you sound like you're against child, like protecting children from child abuse, but it's so vaguely written because they also are passing laws that say that any parent who helps their children with gender affirming care is abusing their child and therefore they can be punished by death. And all it takes is eight jurors out of the 12 to say, yes, we find you guilty of
Gil:this. Oh, Florida. Oh Lord. Just when you thought the swap was not deep enough.
Eric:Yeah. No, not, they have all those alligators for a reason. They're all
Gil:reptiles. I tell you. They are one hurricane away in that entire state is just underwater.
Eric:They'll blame the gays for that. Of course. They always blame the gay community for natural disasters too. I don't get that. We
Gil:control it. It's our power. It's something I was born with. That's why we always shake in the Bay.
Eric:I don't understand Florida. I,
Gil:and that's the thing, we Democrats get off the horse about it. We ain't gonna win it. Yeah. But it's how do you combat it and isolate it, because that shit will spread. Florida has influence on its regional partners. We know that. It's just like California has, its, on, on the west coast, we need to figure out, it's, how do we combat it from a politics force, our laws to go to SCOTUS. So that we come, we make law for the nation kinda thing, if that makes sense. Because Republican isn't doing it. Purposely making something as big as fuck. Go to scotus and if someone becomes land of, rule of, or the land of law i, law of the land and something like that with the Democrats is you have to maybe force it that same way. Yeah. True. Force the question do exactly what they're doing. Just reverse it. I don't know. I don't know. I think it's just, it's an, it's just an inter it's an interesting cultural battle. I'm curious though, what will happen when the g o p officially is extinct, cuz they will go under, I will
Eric:celebrate.
Gil:Yeah. But I'm curious what's gonna replace it.
Eric:True. Now, in a perfect world, maybe not perfect world, but in a more ideal world, a less dystopian world. Yeah. What we consider a Democrat now, like the bidens and. The Feinsteins and those old school Democrats. Yeah. To me, hopefully that will become our right. Yeah. Because to the rest of the world, they pretty much are still very Right. And then the AOCs and the Sanders and the, that mentality will be our left. Yeah. I would still be on that side, but yeah, I could deal a little bit better with that being our right.
Gil:Because there's going be a balance. We know that. Yeah. And there's, if I would even assume that it's same thing, it's if the Republicans went under, the Democrats would split in half. Yeah. Or at least a good chunk of it would break away with splinter because historically we, the Republican party broke out of the Democratic party. And it would not shock me again if the Democrats split in a progressive wing versus the standard. And that center become centrist. Because it's just, it's valid because the US as a whole, I don't think every American is either super left or super right. I don't believe, I think there's a lot. No, they're not somewhere in the middle about, I would say probably in the ballpark of 60 ish percent would fall somewhere right in the middle. They agree with a lot of this, but then they also economically probably agree a little bit more on this side of it. And I'm just curious how we're gonna reset what the reset will look like. Because at least from a generational thing, gen X is still, it's conservative, but it's not conservative what boomers are become. Millennials are trending in a much left, we're left way left compared to what our Gen X was at our age, or boomers at our same age. In the late thirties, early forties. Z we know is off the head on the left side and an alpha is making good. Probably make Z look in comparison. Yeah. We know that because the Alpha's already out there, little school kids protesting, ready to go. And it's sad.
Eric:Yeah. I don't, but I think it's sad that they have to give up their childhood to protest for what is Yeah. Wrong in society. And they're protesting for what should be and what is Right. They're standing up against that and I'm like, you are, you're missing out your childhood because the adults have fucked up and fucked you over. They can't throw you out. That's why you have Canada, who has an petition calling for Canada to allow trans people to claim asylum. And that's from around the world, but that's also including the UK and the us. Oh. Because that's how hateful it has become in the us. Yeah. And then you also have, what is it? The UN has been urged to intervene over the destruction of the US abortion rights. Exclusive letters from human rights groups, say overturning of the constitutional rights, violates us obligations as a un member state. And this is true too, because, so I'll, and I'll totally let you have the floor in just a second, I just wanna make one comment what's going on in Iran, and we haven't even talked about that and how they're poisoning the girls there. Absolutely horrific terrible. But the US while they're saying like, it's awful and terrible what they're doing, and it is, yeah. You don't have a whole lot to stand on though, because you're taking women's rights away too. Go ahead. What were you gonna say? What were you gonna say? I, cause
Gil:no I was gonna say that. No, it just I know that you and I were talking about this with the thing. It's nice and dandy, but we already know because the US' position it's nothing's gonna happen. We know that. True. It's just one of those Nice it's great to know, like I said, yeah. We know that we are the biggest hypocrites out there. Yes. We're out there launching our, we know that we already started several wars on, oh, for democracy. But you can't even give your own people. You haven't in the wars as well, they were segregated. We know this. Yeah. The US has had a, there's enough history about it and we're just gigantic. Hypocrites, same thing. We want, we love the movies of the out the what is it? The underdog. Oh, yay. Go. You thought differently. Look, could you prove everyone wrong? But we know we ostracized the fuck outta them. We know that there's nobody way you're gonna survive to be thinking differently, God forbid. And I don't know, it just, I think the US really needs to have a, put that fucking mirror in front of them and really have a conversation with itself and figure out
Eric:what's going on. Absolutely. They need to hold up that mirror and even like it Yeah. I know, like on this podcast, we're like Democrat, leading, leaning I'm not gonna say we're not, we're we very much are. Again, I think the Democrats are a little bit right of my beliefs, but for the most part I'm probably that more extreme left person that most people don't fit into. But even, Biden's definitely fucked up a lot too. He just Yeah. Released his Title IX proposals for banning the ban of trans athletes. Am I saying that right? Yeah. And he basically gave them a playbook on how to find the loopholes to ban trans athletes after he did that whole beautiful presentation at the State of the Union. Yeah. Saying, I see you, I stand with you to the trans community, and now he's gonna say that it allows for gender markers and physical exams and sex related criteria. I wanna
Gil:assume it was, obviously we know it was probably not malicious. The intent was there, but I, God bless him. He tried,
Eric:But did he? I'm not. Because it interesting, it, it reminds me of the whole, and we talked about this when we did our SOTU Yeah. Episode. And I was talking about how I feel like a lot of it is just not wordplay per se, but stating oh, we're gonna do this, we wanna do this, we wanna do this. Oh, but the Republicans aren't gonna let us, so we're gonna say we're doing all this, but we know it's never gonna pass because the Republicans have control of the house. But we can say we tried it and people are so therefore people are gonna like us. So I feel like it's the same thing, where're like, oh, we're gonna say that we're doing this and we're inclusive of everybody. We're inclusive of everybody, and we're just gonna slide this through the back door where there shows you how you can be exclusive. And. That's something that needs to be discussed and talked about. If it was a faux pa and you're like, oh shit, it shouldn't have been worded like that. Okay. Yeah. But I haven't heard anyone make any retractions on that either.
Gil:It's a good call out, I think with it. Let's be honest, the House Democrats, like I said the bills and everything like that come through Congress, right? Yes. It's not gonna come through the executive branch. He can't executive order all our happiness.
Eric:45 tried to do that. Oh,
Gil:he did? No, absolutely. Executive order owed a lot of 'em. He owed a lot of shit, huh? Yeah, but it's that the proper process of it right. Has to come to Congress. Although why the fuck are we paying them? True? They lifetime. But the same thing I've challenged when we are challenging the Senate or people who like the Bernie Sanders and all that out of his long time in the hou, I mean in within the Senate. So like that the amount of Bills pass through him is still fairly low for the longevity of him. True. So that's where the challenge is that a lot of them love to point it out, oh, I've been doing this. You have in your four walls, but on a national level. It's gaining that support from your fellow Democrats working across on the aisle within the party. And they don't do it. Like I said, Democrats the foot, I've always been frustrated by it since I got been voting. So it's says oh four I'm coming up on 20 years is it's like wrangling fucking hands. I love the left. I love being from president. I, obviously my thoughts always how do we get better as a society, but at the same time it's always like, why more left than you? It's not a competition to be better. Just do something. Because you're letting Republicans win every year. They shouldn't win. We got more voters than them registered.
Eric:But my thing too is they should never lose. No, and I agree. Like I said, Republicans are what, 29%? Yeah. And I think that's being generous. It could be 27. But the thing is that, so you have all the infighting and it's still, a lot of it is because Republican or Democrat, someone's patting your pockets. They are. And so you're gonna be like, I'm not gonna vote for those bills because that attacks the pharmaceutical companies. And guess what? AbbVie and,, Eli Lilly and Novas Stick and all that other stuff, they're sending a little bit of money my way. Yeah. So I'm not gonna vote on that. It happens on both parties.
Gil:Oh, no, absolutely. They, oh, cut. Democrat. Thinking of like, when you think Democrats also, right? It is ironic. It's gonna be held in the DM C is gonna be held next year in Chicago. Okay. The Chicago politics was notorious for putting in the, the sh the political machine out there was, it was its own thing. Yeah. That's a whole class in itself. But come on now we've had our fair share of questionable times. Yeah. And, questionable candidates. But I don't know, that's the only part of like within the parties that I've always just been weary with the Democrats. Like I said, we could even have a super majority and it's, that is a question. We'll, splinter, we know that Democrats will splinter from each other. Yeah. We don't stand lock in. We're ready to go. We don't No
Eric:think that's true. It's wonderful.
Gil:It's great about it's cause we'll challenge each other. We're like, what? No, but certain time, this is one of those times like let's get the
Eric:shit moving. And that's why like more your urban areas and your more, I hate to say it this way, but highly educated people tend to lean more left. Yeah. Let's talk a little bit about bud Light and Nike.
Gil:What they're spreading the gay Eric, the gay.
Eric:So in case people, I don't know if people know this or not, I'm sure people do know this, but I've met a few people who are like, I don't understand why I'm seeing Bud Light all over my timeline. Like, why is there all these beer cans with rainbows on them? Dylan Mulvaney, who is a trans actress and personality influencer is doing a campaign with Bud Light and Nike. And the right has just lost their shit. Yeah. I'm gonna touch the Nike one a little bit later. I wanna talk about Bud Light first. So
Gil:you have drinks Bud Light. I'm sorry.
Eric:Continue. Wait, say, what was that? I'm like, who
Gil:drinks Spotlight to
Eric:begin with? I don't, yeah, I don't continue. I don't, I'm like yeah no honey, no. Like
Gil:piss water.
Eric:Go ahead. But people are like, oh, I'm gonna go back to Sam Adams. Sam Adams does their L G B T Q stuff. I'm gonna change beers. Guinness supports the L G B LGBTQ Q community. Yeah. At least during Pride month. Corona Miller Light. Coors Light Mil Michel Lobe Ultra. Bud Light, obviously. What is this one? There's many others. Stellar Artois is owned by Anheuser-Busch. Yep. These people are getting so mad because they're doing this campaign cuz they're looking at expanding their audience and there's a can with her face or likeness on it. It's not even a can. You can buy, it's like for the commercial. And you have Marjorie Taylor Green. Oh, the king of Beer is gone. They've turned to the Queen of Beer. No more Bud Light for me. Okay like you said, who's drinking Bud Light anyways. And secondly what's wrong with being a queen?
Gil:Queen is the best piece on a chess board. Absolutely. Bitches everywhere. Yes.
Eric:And guess what I mean? That's just such like internalized misogyny. Uhhuh.
Gil:Didn't they call us snowflakes, aren't they? The ones supposed to be tough, able to withstand criticism.
Eric:You have, who is it? Kid Rock and who, there's a picture of him floating around drinking like a Bud Light next to a drag queen. Yeah. He's all crying about it now too. And everyone's oh, I'm going back to Coors. Coors has been supporting the L G B T community since 1960 or the 1960s. Yeah. So you lost your angle with that one. People
Gil:so
Eric:stupid. I just, it's la it's dumb. It's, yeah. Like you said, it's stupid. It's ridiculous. It's, again, it's playing into their culture war. That doesn't exist. It doesn't exist. Crisis. That's not even there. It doesn't exist.
Gil:None of it exists. The thing that does exist is children getting shot and killed. Yes. Heartbeats. By the way, these have the kids who got shot had heartbeats. Yes. Isn't that where life begins? Yes. The sanctity of that. Yes. These children have fucking heart pad, I should say. Everything's a past tense at this point. Unfortunately.
Eric:Yeah. And
Gil:it's, but that's not the
Eric:issue. And the thing is too, and we'll get to the Nikes part of this in a second. So Florida's looking to, because right now Florida's like a haven state for people, for women who are looking for proper healthcare and abortions, because they still can have abortions in Florida, but they're looking to change that to six weeks. Of course. Yeah, of course. But like you said or people like to use this argument that aborted fetus might have cured cancer or could have been the next so could that kindergartner or that 10th grader who was just shot. You didn't, you don't care about them. Like you said, they had a heartbeat. They were breathing, they were actually able to live on their own and make decisions and had cognition. Yes. You don't care about that. So that's why I'm like, don't at me with your pro-life bullshit. It's never
Gil:been
Eric:No it's never been about that. Going back to the Dylan Mulvaney really quickly. Yeah. Stupid people about the whole Bud Light shit, like whatever. And then you have that, I'm just gonna say it, you have that stupid ass cunt bitch, Caitlin Jenner, who is attacking her because Nike is doing a campaign with her and she's super offended and super pissed off and, Says it's an outrage that they have partnered with her. It is a shame to see such an iconic American company go so woke. We can be inclusive, but not at the expense of the mass majority of people and have some decency while being inclusive. This is an outrage. Caitlin Jenner is a cunt bitch. I'm gonna say it again. Yeah. She's a neros, labial flap.
Gil:God,
Eric:I can't with her. I fucking cannot with her. The I will. I will honor pronouns. That's why
Gil:we said she is a cut.
Eric:But that doesn't mean I have to like the bitch. And I'm sorry that I'm calling her out of her name. I'm not sorry that I'm calling her out of her name, but I'm sorry to be calling someone out of their name, but she's a cunt bitch. She has been fighting
Gil:the community from day, pretty much. Day one. Day one. She wanted us to accept her. Fine, you're part of it, no problem. But when you're sitting there trying to light us on fire at the same fucking time, I was like, what? Why? Yeah. Come
Eric:on. She, and she's totally she's, she is to, I don't even want to say the trans community, but.
Gil:She like what Candace Owens is to the black community. That's exactly
Eric:what I was gonna say. Literally. Exactly. I was gonna say that was what exact, the exact example I was going to use. Yeah. Cause
Gil:I was like, that's, I gotta tell you one person who could piss off another group
Eric:that is No, that was exactly what I was trying to say and verbalize. You just said it so much quicker and more bluntly than I was trying to maybe dance around a little bit. You just went right there and I'm proud of you and thank you for just going right there. Cause I try to be little
Gil:nicer about No, I, that's another one. There're total
Eric:tokens. Yeah, absolutely. Absolute tokens. Candace Owens is now attacking Jojo C1 saying that she's lying about being a lesbian. Why do you fucking care? Why isn't any of your fucking business,
Gil:none of your business? She in bed with him.
Eric:You and Caitlin Jenner go carpet munch together.
Gil:Oh what? There was a video reasonably right of a ra. The rappers was calling her out and she respond. I saw that. I trying to remember who, oh God, I'm drawing a blank on it, but I was dying. It's, that's bad.
Eric:Oh, Candace Owens is trash. She's trash.
Gil:She's
Eric:trash. She's trash. She's trash. In my best Angela Bassett voice, which I know that was not a very good Angela Bassett voice from waiting to Exhale people. If you haven't seen that movie, you should. It's a cl by now by today's standards. It's a classic. Yes. I feel so old vintage film vintage
Gil:Eric.
Eric:Oh my goodness. Oh
Gil:my God. Somebody pointed out, and I was slight low-key mortified about this because they're like, oh my God, 1970 is the same distance to 1913 as it is to 2023. And I'm just like,
Eric:oh my God, you, how dare you. Oh my God. I feel so old now that you said that. Oh my God, that's oh my gosh. Yeah. Yeah,
Gil:because you beat the seventies. They, like I,
Eric:that was
Gil:before my time. It's not that long. It was before our time. You're born with me in 86, oh Lord. Oh
Eric:my gosh. Any who? Apparently NPR has decided to, Pull itself from Twitter. They have pulled all their accounts from Twitter. That's
Gil:why my newsfeed hasn't come in very quiet. Yeah I follow them. Or did
Eric:NPR is stepping away from Twitter and this includes NPR politics feed. And then it says that they, and produce MPR produces consequential independent journalism every day in service to the public. And then it basically says that you can find them either by subscribing to their newsletter, which I do. I do not have their app, but I do also follow them on Instagram as well. So
Gil:I do, yeah. My call NPR and Instagram. Yeah.
Eric:Let's go a little bit abroad, okay. Okay. The Scottish government is taking legal actions against the UK over the gender reform bill. So this is according to gay times. The Scottish government has announced that it will launch a legal challenge against the UK government after it triggered section 35 of the Scotland Acts of Block a gender reform bill voted by the MSPs last December. Newly elected S N P leader and Scotland's first minister, za Yusof confirmed that his government will push ahead with legal action and lodge a petition for a judicial review of the UK government's use of section 35 and MSPs voted by 86 to 39 in favor of allowing transgendered people to self-identify, meaning trans people would no longer need to be medically diagnosed with gender dysphoria before obtaining a gender recognition certificate. Damn.
Gil:Because you and I talked to us in the early, I think it was probably at the end of our last season into the first, I think of our season. This season, yeah. Where we were mentioning about Scotland. But I'm glad that the pressing through with it. Yeah,
Eric:me too. Oh wow. They're standing up and I think that's fantastic. That's fantastic.
Gil:I'm just curious, just from a general statement, if anyone's from that area who listened to our podcast, it's what is the vibe out there about it? If there's a, like for me, I always feel like the news, the way that the reporting in out here is gonna be Scotlands on the Berg are breaking away from the uk. And go solo, especially when England broke, what is it? The UK went what is it? Brexit. The Brexit, yeah. So I'm just curious if what it is out there.
Eric:I would like to know that too. Yeah, so if any of our listeners want to reach out at us at yeah info dot the cute lounge gmail.com or at the q lounge podcast.com or on any of our dms, we'll go through all that stuff end. We would love to know, or if you want to be on the show and give us a lowdown, hit us up
Gil:be, because the media's gonna show one thing, right? Absolutely. It's just like American politics and I'm just curious kinda what it, what a normal person, irregular, everyday Joe is seeing, or what are you guys noticing out there? Because like for instance, here in the Bay, when people talk about, oh my God, it's like this lawlessness in San Francisco. How do you know it's not it? It's not. Yes, we have pockets. Yes, just like every major fucking city out there, but it's not to this point of just running havoc left and right and burning everything fucking down. It's not like that. I can tell you I work in it. I've been working in it through the pandemic. Yeah, absolutely. I see it. I've been right in near downtown. So from what I see versus what's being reported for two different, two
Eric:different yeah, and I'm curious and it's like what we're talking about on our, that's like what we were talking about on our last episode with the issues with TikTok because TikTok is actually showing you what's happening on the streets live as it's actually live happening. Yeah. And then it's not being filtered through mass media.
Gil:Yeah. Arm
Eric:meta. Yeah, arm meta.
Gil:God, that's there. Lost in translation for sure.
Eric:Yeah, so just a couple quick other things I wanted to discuss. Do you watch the screen movies? I
Gil:have I think I saw the
Eric:original. Okay. I saw the original and I saw the second one and I thought the second one was so terrible that I didn't watch the third or fourth one.
Gil:I didn't know they were already up to a six. I'm sorry. I've, I watched all the parody version
Eric:of this, all the scary movies.
Gil:I I've watched all of
Eric:em. The weird thing is too, is like scream is so classic now that people who, like even in this generation know who Scream is like the Scream Mask. Yeah. Oh yeah. I did watch Scream Five and it was terrible, but Mason Gooding's in it and he's fantastic. And they had the, oh, that's fine. They had the original cast of NB Campbell and David Arquette and Courtney Cox, so that was good too. Oh, but awesome. Scream Six is getting ready to be released. I don't know how I feel about it. Yes. Mason Gooding's in it and I like him. We all know that. But I don't like how they treated Nev Campbell and how they wouldn't give her the pay that she asked for, considering that she is like the whole reason why Scream exists, but Scream Six is actually, I guess has reportedly is being banned in Lebanon because of its inclusion of lgbtq plus characters.
Gil:What? Yeah. Okay. That's the, their people, the people are gonna figure a fucking way to VPN that thing and get that to be watched. Yeah. It just won't be shown in theaters.
Eric:Come on now. Unless it's going through the US and their TikTok band. And VPNs can get you, what, 20 years in prison? Yeah. And then there is a mayoral race in a small Spanish village. And it is a farmer named Antonio Moreno announced that he would be running for mayor in a small remote town like three hours southeast of Madrid. He is a retired gay adult film star. Oh, good for him. And movies to his credit are hung country. Two wet, two wet editors cut and Star Wars, a gay Triple X parody. Oh my God. So I don't know much about him. Yeah. So I can't say yes, go vote for him. Yes. Or don't vote for him. I know there was another gay star who was running for something actually in the US and I was like, oh, happy go-lucky. And then someone was like, have you seen how problematic he is? And I was like, oh shit, actually, lemme go delete that now. So I don't know much about him, but I thought this was interesting and that's interesting. I'm all for it. I, there needs to be representation. We're super pro-sex work here in this podcast as it is, so yeah. We love that. And then, speaking of sex, cuz we do like to talk about that every once in a while too. Even though I'm not getting any, but still we still do to talk about it. There was a man in Indonesia who had to undergo emergency surgery after breaking his penis, performing the world's most dangerous sex position missionary. No, but I do want to ask you what you think it is, but it says that an Indonesian man had to undergo emergency surgery after fracturing his penis while performing a notoriously risky sex physician, which left him with an eggplant, fallas.
Gil:I don't know. I wonder if he's hanging from something.
Eric:See, that would be my. I was actually surprised to find out what this dangerous sex physician is because it didn't, like when I re found out which physician it was, I was like, really? That's it? Oh, because I've done way dangerous. I'm like, I've done way more like circus style stuff in bed.
Gil:That's what I'm imagining right now. I'm kinda like, okay, maybe if he ran, did he like run, jump off and then plunged into this person? Or I guess that's what I'm trying to understand. So
Eric:th they were already locked, so we'll just say that. Okay. Okay. But do you have any guesses? No. No. Do you wanna know what it is? Yeah. I'm
Gil:curious.
Eric:Reverse cowgirl slash cowboy. Are you fucking kidding me? That was my idea. That was my reaction too. I was like, what? That's such a dangerous position. According to Dr. Karen Raj, this is the world's most dangerous pleasure pose. Responsible for a whopping 15 per, not 15, 55 0% of fractures, penal fractures.
Gil:I wonder if it's because maybe he's curved incorrectly. But incorrectly. I don't wanna say
Eric:but yeah. I don't think of being, Peyronie's. Disease is its own thing and people have slight curves right and left. Yeah. And up and down too. But that would explain it for him. But if it is responsible for 50% of penal fractures, I don't know. Like I've ridden someone pretty hard and done a full on back band. So where their penis like goes completely like 180 or 90 degrees. Yeah, because I'm just that pit bitch. But that's
Gil:interesting.
Eric:Yeah. I was shocked to find out that it was reverse cow girl, boy.
Gil:Yeah. Huh? I'm sorry. You actually got me dumped in that one. I was kinda like, what? Yeah,
Eric:no, I was surprised too. I was like, really? That one? Yeah. I don't know. I thought it was interesting
Gil:that, that is interesting. Yeah. The more,
Eric:a little stark flying through. So Gill. Yes. How have you grown this week? I guess I can say the last two weeks cuz we actually forgot to do this segment on the last episode or the episode that's dropping today. We had
Gil:a huge download that day with each other on the, with the two episodes ago.
Eric:Yeah. So that's what I figured. I was like, we just Exactly. That was my, that was actually my reasoning too. Yeah. I
Gil:mean we really did, I mean there's just from a political stuff, we just could not bypass. Yeah. Speaking about because geez Louise, they, this is a different, so much going on.
Eric:And who knows this episode might be almost irrelevant by the time the next one drops because everything just changes so much. But please still listen to us. I know, I
Gil:know, right? We have news. We got you. I I'm trying to think like really what have I, anything that I've really grown on I feel like you've just been in a. I don't know, balanced in a sense of this. Okay. The last couple of weeks, nothing really drastic with me. It's more I know I've, obviously, I have the sleep issue but I need to harass the people to actually get me fitted for it. Because they have not yet. I've called them multiple times and I'm like, hello? Do you guys, has no one employed here anymore? I'm just, I have money. I need you to get this. No, I need a,
Eric:Can I ask a question? I hope it's not super personal, but what triggered you to investigate whether you have sleep apnea or not? I was like, because of snoring or
Gil:Chris noticed that I was, I would stop breathing and start, he was like gasping for air. Ok. So then he brought it to me about a year ago. But in me being stubborn and I'm like, no, that's impossible. Maybe it's a weight thing. Bye. Yeah, no, the doctor was like, it's not a weight thing. Like weight would help, but it losing weight. But he said that's not, it's not, in my case, it's not, it,
Eric:it's also a misnomer too, cuz people think that people with sleep apnea are always overweight and that's not true. Yeah. At all. And that's what he was saying. Is there a higher current? Sure. Probably. I remember I went for surgery year not years ago, but a few years back when I was having a biopsy because they, there was a chance that I might have lymphoma. Luckily I didn't. But they kept asking me like do you have sleep apnea? Because if we need to know if you do, I'm like, I've never been diagnosed with it. I don't know. I don't have sleep apnea to my knowledge. Yeah. And they're like okay. And then as I was waking up from my anesthesia, I heard the nurses talking and I was so pissed off because one of the nurses was like he doesn't have sleep apnea, which is shocking. You would think he would, huh? And I was like, still out of it enough that I couldn't verbalize what I was trying to say. And I was like I remember saying it's like, what? What about sleep apnea? And then they like changed the subject really quick. And I'm like, what the fuck? Don't make that generalization. Yeah. Yes, I know I have some weight on me, but don't make that generalization. Like I'm probably a lot more active than both of you are.
Gil:You, you are. And even your mobility, like your flexibility and stuff like that. Yeah. Even if my skin, yes. I could not even match anywhere what you were. I was like, oh no. Cause you would just drop down, ready to go and you're just like, oh, I'm just flipping my arm here. Oh, here my leg. Now it's in my left side. I'm like, what the hell is this? Couldn't triple? And I'm like, no.
Eric:Oh,
Gil:that's funny. No, I, but I, that's what it was. And same thing. He immediately told me, it's like, it's nothing but your ways that this is your body. And I'm like, oh God. Wonderful. I'm, it is what it is. As I'm getting older, things are slowly breaking down. I know. I that and there. Yeah. Later on I'm probably gonna double check to see what else I might have. I'm thinking more if there's any autoimmune, because it does run on my, in the family. So I'm curious if I might have something
Eric:I hope you don't like. Honestly, I really hope you don't. Yeah.
Gil:So just certain things I'm just, I will be here and be sympathetic like one at a time. Yeah. For me, I've just been calling the people just trying to get a fucking appointment to have them do their job. So you're being super self. Yeah. First I'm like, oh, don't give them time. I work in retail, I get it. Let's not over harass them. I'm at that point, I'm like, I have a follow up appointment next Tuesday. I don't have the fucking thing. I dunno. I'm gonna tell my doctor and they're gonna charge me.
Eric:So yeah, no. And so see there, that's how you're growing. You're being super self
Gil:Yeah. I have to be advocate
Eric:shit. Yeah. It's a, it's exhausting being self advocative. And then, let me just preface this as saying someone who does have chronic illness and autoimmune disease. Yeah. They're always like, oh, you need to reduce your stress. Stress can trigger an episode or a flare up. Bitch then meet me at least halfway. Yeah, because I'm asking questions. I have things that I need answered, or I have procedures that are coming up that need to be done or appointments or whatever, and you're not answering my questions. And I'm tired of having to keep self advocating for myself. And that's causing me to stress out, which you're telling me to reduce. Correct. Let me put the soapbox back. But
Gil:but it's the thing, it's like same thing. It's oh, how, why are you stressed? I'm like, I have to call you guys. We have to deal with you. This is not easy. This is why people don't I, at least for me, I never like to deal with the hospitals because there's a lot of bureaucracy and trying to get ahold of somebody and brain to God, somebody actually answers. It's like DMV that yearly every two year trip kind of thing. No, for sure. Yeah. I hate it. I hate it. So that's kinda what I'm dealing with. But I have not, I'm trying to think. I haven't really been nothing else specifically yet. I'll it you, how, what are you working on to work. Or we, I
Eric:actually, it's a, for me, as a big thing I am working on my relationship with food. Ooh. And so I have always been a person, like I, oh, I've talked about it free, pretty freely on here that I've struggled with my weight for most of my life. But it's mostly always been because I'm the type of person, like I've always hated food. To me, food has always been like an ultimate evil. Oh, okay. Because I can just look at food and I put on weight. And so I've always shied away from eating food and then being like in the dance community and everything else. Oh. I was like, got into really disordered eating when I was at my thinnest. I was eating. Eight to 900 calories a day and doing like three to four hours of cardio every single day, seven days a week. Just to keep it off. And that's when I got the most attention, but not for good ways, and I wasn't healthy by any means. And have probably why I have some of the health issues I have now. So I've always been that person and I can easily flip into don't eat all day and then just maybe eat once or eat two twice a day and then that's it. So I've really am making conscious efforts to make sure that I'm eating like three or four times a. Okay. I'm making sure that I'm getting like a high enough protein count cuz it was always easy for me to not get in enough protein. And then I was a vegetarian for a while, so I have a hard time eating certain high protein foods because they just gross me out. And then I'm also, I have a lot of food allergies to a lot of fruits and vegetables. Yeah, so I guess that's what I'm working on right now is changing my relationship with food and realizing that food is not the ultimate evil, that I can actually enjoy food and then I can eat more regularly and I'm forcing myself to make time to. Yeah, so like normally because of the type of job I have now that to when you're a dog groomer, most of the time you just eat on the job. Oh, I don't have time to eat, so I have to get these next three dogs out by a certain time, so I'm just gonna p power through and then, oh, let me start this next thing and then I'm just gonna get off of work and go do whatever. I'm actually like making time to eat. And if I'm running late on something, I'm running late cuz I have to eat. So yeah, that's what I'm doing right now is of course just really changing my relationship with food and how I view food. And I'm Ty to enjoy food now rather than hate it and villainize it
Gil:y Yeah. Cause it's a, and I think. Being in the community also. You would agree with oh my God forbid you're becoming over a 30 inch waist. And it's oh my God, for shame. And they're like, oh, it's because what you're eating. I would argue that it's really, it's comes down to genetics. There's gonna be certain things that you are just, the cards are not in your favor. Yeah. They're not gonna be in your favor. Yeah, absolutely. And some of the diets are not gonna be for us. Or there's oh, if you lived off of these kind of foods, but our people are not those kind foods. That's not needed to, finding things that are actually gonna work for us, or, however, our nutrients, stuff like that. But genetics is a big factor. It's like me, I already know. Diabetes potentially isn't my cards. I do everything I can to be prevented as the best I can, but it runs deep in both sides. And It's, we're just sweet. I already know there's certain things that are gonna come me down the take. Arthritis is another one. I'm, some autoimmune. I have a lot of, I have a variety of cards where I'm just like, as I'm getting older, I'm like, okay, what can I do to be preventative? Or at least when I do get it, it's, being smart about it because I love food. But I'm the same thing. I look at it, I start gaining. My metabolism starts slowing down at 25. Up until then, I like, the amount of food I eat was less than I did before. Yeah. And I'm still gonna gain more weight. It's just, I look at it, I'm like, there's
Eric:unbound. See then, like I'm the type of person myself who, and a lot of people fall into this too, cuz everyone's oh, you need to restrict how much you eat. You need to cut this many calories a day, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. You need to do this, you need to do that. Whatever. But you, there's also you can starve yourself and your body's oh my God, we haven't had any food in however long. Yeah. So I'm just gonna hold onto everything that has just been consumed. Yeah. And I fall into that, which goes into like the whole thrifty genotype from from an ancestral times of being nomadic. Yeah. You had one big meal and then you had to walk for days and days not knowing when you were gonna get your next meal. And so your body had to conserve energy. It was a thrifty genotype. It served you in survival back then. Yeah. Like we talk about trauma responses now. Yeah. Serving you for survival. It did not in that situation. That's what being a thrifty genotype was. Just, in today's society you don't really need that, but your body just hasn't fully evolved to this.
Gil:Spot. Yeah. And also creating that European we eat at eight, 12, and five. Yes. Our body doesn't know the damn time. It's all, when you're hungry, you eat, put a little snack, call it a fucking day. Yeah. But that's a European, us versus them. Savages, those indigenous people, they eat whenever they want. No, that doesn't exist. There's these times, no. When breakfast starts, and that's another constructive thing. And forcing yourself to eat when you're probably weren't hungry. Yeah.
Eric:And then you we've gone there and then you grow food and Oh yeah. So you grow up and oh, there's starving people in this country, in that country. And if you don't finish that, you don't get your dessert or you don't get this, or you're. Be grounded for the next two hours and you can't go outside and play if you don't finish this or whatever it might be. Yeah. So you have that. And then just like you being in the community, oh my gosh, you are not a 30 inch waist, so ugh, you're disgusting, you're too heavy. And then you're like, oh my gosh, I have to get super skinny. And then they always tell me like, oh, we'll just eat less so then I'm gonna eat less. And then your body's no, I need some calories and I'm just gonna hold onto that for right now. Yeah. So it's a vicious cycle. It is. I am, part of my self-healing is and starting to like myself more and yeah. Not put myself down as much. Is now me looking at my relationship with food and trying to consciously change that relationship so that I can have a better relationship with it and not villainize it.
Gil:Isn't it a good challenge to be nicer to yourself than not? It is because it's really I, like it's really difficult. Yeah. Find a compliment for yourself and something's yeah. Versus it's like critique something from you. I was like, oh, roll my photo down. Let's see. Exactly something. Yeah. Yeah. When my bo I have a body image. I've always had issues with that, even when I was, with Skinnys, I still found issue. Oh God. Now I look back with those photos, such kinder eyes. I'm like, oh, you're beautiful, Gilbert. Good job. And I'm gonna at myself, I'm 80, 30 year old. I'm 30. You're healthy. You afford food now. Yeah. Yeah. It's being nicer to yourself. Nah, that's a good improvement. Oh, Jesus. But good job, Eric. I like it. I like your so
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