Oct. 13, 2020

Episode 7

Episode 7

An interview with Benoit an up and coming rapper and member of the LGBTQIA+ community, who shares his experiences of life and coming out.

Soundcloud, "Summertime"
https://m.soundcloud.com/brandon-tyler-benoit/summertime?ref=clipboard&p=i&c=1

Benoit on Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/artist/1K0By71nfx0UL4fgP43nOh?si=xBPK1lZ8Rc-LMWw9T__J2g&nd=1





Transcript
Eric:

Hello and welcome to the Q lounge podcast. We are your hosts. I'm Eric

Gil:

I'm Gil.

Eric:

Join us as we discuss news stories and life situations. As they relate to the LGBTQIA plus experience, please visit us@theqloungepodcast.com and hit that subscribe button or listen wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, and welcome to The Q Lounge Podcast. I'm your host, Eric and I'm

Gil:

Gil.

Eric:

And today we are joined by a very special guest Benoit how are you doing

Benoit:

today? I'm doing very well. How are you guys doing today?

Eric:

Doing well, thanks as well. So how's everything been going for you?

Benoit:

in lieu of the pandemic and all the obvious. Like adversities that we're all facing right now. I'm doing pretty well.

Eric:

how are you coping with the pandemic?

Benoit:

it's odd for me because I was working for like the first two months of the pandemic. So all of my like stir craziness has been coming as of lately. I think everybody's passed it already. I'm going a little crazy now. I'm actually looking for jobs though. I didn't want to be unemployed, but. my position do not survive.

Eric:

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. It's been crazy. I had to close my acupuncture clinic due to the pandemic, and now I'm working dog grooming again part time. then I have all these little side projects like this podcast and a tee shirt line coming out and a poetry book.

Benoit:

It's all about the projects though,

Eric:

right? That's what gets you through? So tell us a little bit about yourself. Give us a little bit of

Benoit:

history. I am a, first of all, I am from a lot of places. I was born in Miami. I grew up in Chicago. I lived in Albuquerque for a good chunk of time, and I moved to LA about eight years ago, coming up in November. Oh, yeah, I'm a Jack of all trades entertainment wise. At least I like to think. So

Eric:

he was an amazing dancer, by the way,

Benoit:

I danced the house down boots. I tried acting, which is odd when I moved to LA, it was like mid me being in LA. And I was like, I could act I wasn't wrong, but I wasn't like excited to go make self tape. and then I linked up with somebody who's been a friend of mine. For 14 years, I'd actually met in Albuquerque that lives in LA, now Justice Christo. And we started

Eric:

making music. Oh, that's awesome.

Benoit:

Other first producer, Chuck Ellis. they allowed me to, express myself in that form.

Eric:

That's amazing. I know you have a new single out Summertime.

Benoit:

Yes Summertime, which is on Sound Cloud. I wasn't going to release that. The interesting story about that is that song I messed up my distribution because I don't have a manager. So I do all my like publishing, all that stuff myself and I had set it for the day that George Floyd died and I get an email from my publisher and it's you didn't submit the right stuff for it to be validated. And I was like, good thing. Cause I like, I wouldn't have wanted it to come out anyway. Yeah, that

Eric:

was,

Benoit:

but I decided to put it out randomly this past weekend.

Eric:

I'm glad you did and we'll definitely link that to the page, everybody. So you guys can hear that, bop, do you have any other songs out that people might want to listen

Benoit:

to? Yeah, I have. My first song was a High AF my second song was Office Chair. Third song was Wrong and all of those are on Spotify.

Eric:

Oh nice. Oh,

Benoit:

awesome. I've a music video. I was supposed to be doing a lot more right now, the pandemic,

Eric:

it just sidelined everything kicked everyone's ass. You're like all, what the fuck? So you said you've lived a lot of places. How long were you in Miami for?

Benoit:

I was just born there.

Eric:

I do not

Benoit:

live there for, I visited when I was younger, but I would probably, I was going to say I wouldn't do the same to claim Florida, but

Eric:

I don't know if I would claim Florida now.

Benoit:

I definitely wouldn't. I was there for a hot second.

Eric:

And how long were you in Chicago for.

Benoit:

15 years.

Eric:

Oh, nice.

Benoit:

I moved to Albuquerque when I was a freshman after freshman year.

Eric:

Okay. And then you lived here for, you lived here for a really long time. That's how you went. Yeah. Okay. And then LA treating you.

Benoit:

it's LA LA's built a lot of character in me. I'm definitely not the same person that I was when I left. and that's like a testament growing older, but. Yeah, there's definitely a sense of like abrasiveness that comes with LA that you have to get used to. I, a friend of mine quoted some like tens of thousands of people come in and out of LA each day. And that was super determined to not be one of those people. And so I kinda just took everything in stride and like went through the motions of everything, even when I was going through like dark things. I guess in short LA's treated me pretty nice where other people would have probably folded.

Eric:

That's good. And also it's a Testament to your character and how much of a fighter you are too. So that's awesome. I think you are.. how was it for you as a child? Like how was it for you just growing up and

Benoit:

kinda it's weird. Cause there's like a duality to my childhood. It was very like on paper. It was very pleasant and easy. And if you were to look. And on it from outside, you'd be like, Oh, that's sweet. It wasn't chaotic. my mom being like the black sheep, so to speak of my family. and that's just real, yeah, it made her discovering herself while having me young, made it difficult to, to low key, be a kid.

Eric:

I can understand that again.

Benoit:

I fought for those moments to be a kid. So I absolutely did have a childhood and I appreciate my grandparents for keeping that alive

Eric:

too well. That's good. it's important to have a childhood as a child. So many people are forced to grow up. I remember being a child. I was always like, I can't wait to be an adult. And now when you're an adult, you're like, fuck, I should have been,

Benoit:

take me back to second grade right

Eric:

naptime, please. so did you have any struggles coming out when it,

Benoit:

yeah, so I came out like three times. I came up for the first time in middle school to two friends. And I came out as bisexual. I fully knew I was gay though. I came out as bisexual because it was like a softer blow. Yeah. We actually, this,

Gil:

we had this conversation

Eric:

conversation in the last episode.

Benoit:

People would always call me gay in middle school. And I would never, I didn't think I gave them any clue. They were fully right the whole time, but I came out of his bi to these two people. And then in ninth grade, I don't know what struck me to come out, but I came out and I was in ROTC, which was like an army, but they were a little bit more, like accepting. Cause it was like Chicago area, which I guess there's not like an indicator for an indicative for better for LGBT experiences. But, it, it wasn't as big of a deal besides like teasing. nobody I knew actually got beat up or anything. For coming out. which I mean teasing and a as destructive.

Eric:

Yeah, for sure.

Benoit:

but I came out again in ninth grade as gay and I actually came out to date my first

Eric:

boyfriend

Benoit:

and we would sneak up into the computer lab from the ROTC room and we would like kiss and hold hands and play. Oh, the computers before school, then my parents were like, you're moving to Albuquerque. And I was like, Ooh, try to go back in the closet. Okay. If you guys remember the website X, Y no. X Y was like this magazine that catered to the youth.

Eric:

Yes, I do remember that. Yes, I do you

Benoit:

think about it these days? Because. It's like a bunch of men, like running this for 13 year old boys and provocative, like it was bad, but they had a website that was just like Myspace. Okay. On that website. And I met somebody. That was going to Cibola High School that was the high school, that I was going to, and so I was out in Chicago, so I was fully talking to him, but then I could move to Albuquerque. I snapped at I don't want to be out. This is like Lowkey farm town. I don't know anybody. I don't know anybody. And I, ignored that fool He asked me to the homecoming. And I was like too much. I felt bad about that. I just ignore him all in the hallways. And then junior year I came out fully. I was 16 when I fully came out to everybody,

Eric:

including my family.

Benoit:

my mom, ROTC was cool, surprisingly cause they were Marine ROTC. So I expected them to. Simplify me out. my mom asked me and it's around October. Ironically, we're having this conversation because it's, it might be like the. The How old am I, the 16th anniversary of you coming out, like

Eric:

happy anniversary.

Benoit:

We were watching this thing heavy in church. There's this program called hell house. And we were watching hell house, like a documentary about it on IFC. And they have this AIDS patients scene. Could you know how the church?

Eric:

Yeah, of course.

Benoit:

So she looked at me and she was like, Are you gay? And I swear to God, the last time she asked me that I was like 10 and I promised myself that I wouldn't lie to her about that again. So she asked me and I was like, yeah. and then she started to cry and she's I just don't want anybody messing with you. And I was like, I'll beat ass if I have to. So she was cool. she's always been very like a liberal about. Things like that. so she was the only person in my family that knew. She then told my great aunt, my grandmother's sister, who she was visiting when she had me in Miami. And so she knew, so those were the only two people in my family that knew my little brother probably knew. Cause he's walked in on me doing Britney choreography in the living room.

Eric:

Don't we all do that.

Benoit:

my uncle also had to have known something cause he also once found porn and that I was looking at his computer, he printed it up.

Gil:

Wow.

Benoit:

He was like, what is this? I was like, Ooh, So that was a good set of pictures of what it was before videos or I had access to videos at least. so my stepdad found out by finding porn. Yeah. My grandma found out because my great aunt blurted it out when they were in an argument which caused a whole like Rift of like family things behind the scene that I never knew about until six years later. my stepdad didn't back to that. He didn't really care about that too much. He had a gay

Eric:

brother. Oh, nice.

Benoit:

my grandma, my grandparents were religious. Like I would say blindly religious. Then I think they have a little bit more clarity in their religion now. in terms of acceptance and the understanding of love and all that, when it comes to having a child, that's a LGBT. but at first it was easy.

Eric:

Oh, that's a good to come out

Benoit:

for me each time.

Eric:

That's good. I know we were talking about that in our last episode and a little bit in our first episode, and I didn't really discover it until I was like 22 that I was, and it took me forever to accept myself even after that, even though everybody already knew and, Gil did it in high school. So we had, he had a little bit of that. did you have any, you said that there was really no family problems. Did you have any like issues culturally?

Benoit:

aside from my family being like our church family, my grandparents specifically, my grandma will swear to God to this day that she did not put. Homosexuality and the Bible pamphlets around her house. I hyperbolize a little bit, so it might've been one pamphlet, but my memory is telling me there were like three pamphlets around the house. and like I said, they had that situation that I never knew about, like that riff my grandma and her sister. Didn't talk for a few years cause of that. Cause she knew and they didn't tell my grandma. I never would bring it up to my grandparents. Cause I always knew it was a soft spot and I never wanted to, that was our point of contention. And I didn't want it to override the fact that we were family.

Eric:

Okay. No, that makes sense.

Benoit:

But that was when I was younger. I'm older now

Eric:

and I'm assuming everyone's cool with it now. No one gives a shit.

Benoit:

My grandpa makes jokes. They'll make jokes.

Eric:

That's cool. Yeah. And friends took it. Cool. No issues with friends.

Benoit:

I've always had really. Good people around me.

Eric:

that's great. It sounds like you had a really good support system. Like I was telling Gil, I went to a Christian high school. So even if I would have wanted to come out or had even thought about that, I was, it wouldn't have been very easy to because they

Benoit:

Are you from Albuquerque.

Eric:

Yeah. Yeah. I'm from Albuquerque.

Benoit:

So you went to Hope?

Eric:

No, I went to Menaul.

Benoit:

Oh,

Eric:

yeah. It's even smaller than

Benoit:

hope.

Gil:

Yeah.

Eric:

Yeah. I'm like, my cattiness will fly, Yeah, no, but it was, I'm very anti gay there. Yeah. You have to study the Bible all the time, which is fine. But they were like, yeah, if I had a gay uncle, I would like the murder of him. And you're like, all, Whoa, I'm not even a thought in my head now.

Benoit:

God damn.

Eric:

Yeah. They were like really harsh over there. So that's why I was like, yeah, this whole religion thing is not for me.

Benoit:

Every time I would go to church, it seems like they would bring up Leviticus to the point where I thought people were telling people I was coming.

Eric:

Everyone loves to fall on that book. That one book in the Bible, Leviticus I'm like,

Benoit:

it's just

Eric:

Huh?

Gil:

it's just like the amendments. There was only the second there's no other amendment.

Eric:

Yeah. We eat shrimp

Benoit:

activity. What is it called? Selectiveness

Eric:

yeah, pick and choose. Did you have any struggles coming out? Not coming out. Cause obviously that was, it seemed like there was a pretty, not too tumultuous situation for you, but did you have any like any personal struggles with having to come out or?

Benoit:

Nah, I had deGrasse to like I didn't have to, I didn't have to do it cause I was watching it. I was like, I watch a lot or I watch something way more TV back then. I still do watch a lot of. TV and we'll have over Housewives of Potomac conversation later.

Eric:

I'm fine. I finally caught up actually. I was

Benoit:

The best franchise in my opinion.

Eric:

It is. And people sleep on it all the time.

Benoit:

Shittin on Atlanta. It's crazy.

Eric:

Yeah. But those are like the two best. And then Beverly Hills, but yeah.

Benoit:

Yeah, they did an all stars one, but, I'm sorry, the question one more time. I started thinking about

Eric:

the term you're talking about. I was asking if you have any personal or internal struggles,

Benoit:

like I said, I was, I had TV shows to navigate me. And every which way possible than I could have felt about that situation. So even before I've thought about me going through it, or had to go through that thought process, I was already equipped because Degrassi had like dead ass, like the same thing coming out, like being attracted to boys, dealing with your friends thing, family, and like the most like graphic way they could have done it then. And then you have like real sex and like HBO, Queer as folk was a big thing that I watched with the volume down.

Eric:

I love that show

Benoit:

justin, like I just had a map of, not a specific map. we get to Noah's arc and me being like a Black gay man. Did you see the reunion?

Eric:

I did not see the reunion that just happened, but I'm still looking for my Wade,

Benoit:

the rona files. Oh, I've seen Jensen and I've talked to Jensen

Eric:

because he has just as hot

Benoit:

he's so fine. One day I was at Gold's gym in Hollywood, Darryl Stephens. And, what's his name? why am I forgetting his name right now? he played Junito.

Eric:

Oh God. And he was in

Benoit:

Wilson. Cruz? Yes. Wilson, Cruz. We're talking about the leg press machine. And I was just like, this is my like early gay. fucking life. Like I lost my virginity. So I've always had a map of like how to handle these things. And I've to think that my life is lowkey, like the Truman show sometimes.

Eric:

That's cool.

Benoit:

That's how things work out for me,

Eric:

That's really awesome. Yeah. I actually never saw Degrassi. I know Drake was in it, but I've never seen it. The

Benoit:

storylines they had Marco, who's a whole gay character. Marco dating Dylan. Oh my heart. They had a three part coming out special for him. It was great.

Eric:

Oh, that's beautiful. Now, I did. I did watch Noah's arc. I do love that show. but I didn't see the last reunion, but I think I saw the movie first and then I went back and watched all the

Benoit:

Jumping in the Broom. Bob Sinclair world, hold on. That's my shit. It reminds me of pride, like my first Albuquerque pride. that movie and that song.

Eric:

Yeah. Oh yeah. So how has, life in the LGBTQ community out there in LA for you? GIl and I talk often how Albuquerque fits like the stereotypical scenes, but when you get to the bigger metropolitan cities, it's like completely different and not everyone fits the molds that you think of stereotypically.

Benoit:

so I agree with that statement about the community Albuquerque. I say it like that because every time somebody talks about the community, they get like some kinda like some kind of tea, because for whatever reason, people get insecure about the situation. But, Here. It's weird because you're right. There's like a different, there's different kinds of gays. And so my easiest discernment for this and describing the community is you have your West Hollywood gay.

Eric:

Okay. Yeah, I think, cause I've been to the Abby

Benoit:

very vanilla, very like. Oh, my God. I'm I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. It's just, WeHo it's no stigma. That's it's like not, it's also not like an unknown thing. Like it's very uppity, like white,

Eric:

very Vanderpump rules.

Benoit:

All these Stassis, these running around in a world of Stassi. I'm trying to be a Faith. Yeah. Kristen, let's be real. it's very that yeah. It's like you have like it's racist, but Weho is lowkey kind of racist. I enjoy going to WeHo there are bars. I like out there, WeHo it's catering to the, like the archetypical white. Twinkie gay boy.

Eric:

Okay.

Benoit:

And that's fun sometimes, but like you get that, you get, so that example of no fats, no fems, no Asians, no Blacks, no that stupid fucking, what was that? Grindr fucking

Eric:

preference. Yeah, the grinder

Benoit:

that's like the motto of West Hollywood, in my opinion.

Eric:

Oh, wow. Okay.

Benoit:

So what was cool about like exploring LA is you have like your Valley gays, which most of the time are going to West Hollywood because that's close, but what is super cool is you have your downtown gays and this is like a little more rough around the edges. Like

Eric:

the fun ones

Benoit:

you have, like the Boulay brothers shows like queen Kong, you have. Pinche queen, you have DJ Rubella Spreads. then you get into the underground parties. They just don't do this. And it's like a lot more edgy and downtown. Like you have to love muscle with I mentioned Justice Cristo before, and all his people. and then even the music collective that I'm a part of Backlash, collective, it's like a bunch of queer. Artists that are like downtown centric. Like we enjoy going to like the precinct. We enjoy going to red line. the bar mattered Chine before that closed down a couple of years ago. it's just a little bit more of a homey vibe. You feel a lot more comfortable down here in my opinion, because obviously there's people that feel comfortable in WeHo and yeah. I judge those kinds of people as they've been judging us for a minute

Eric:

forever.

Benoit:

They, those guys saw him like a gay with spikes, like Liberty spikes in the nineties and were like, Oh my God, It's the coolest fucking kind of people. I have strong opinions about, yeah,

Eric:

no, I appreciate it. would you say that there's any stereotypes that you fit into?

Benoit:

no, no, I really don't. I try to be multifaceted. I've tried to, I tried to not live up to any kind of stereotype.

Eric:

That's good. And we were talking in our last episode, if, we think that people fit a stereotype because they're fitting society's expectations of what we are or if the stereotype exists, because we are that, and that's

Benoit:

the old, what came first, the chicken or the

Eric:

egg

Benoit:

conversation in this case, I think it's the, The society made us aware of things. And then we were like, Oh, was right. And then we perpetuated it, as each individual stereotypes not exclusive to one.

Eric:

Yeah, for sure. And

Benoit:

make sure you keep that in.

Eric:

Will do. so you were talking earlier when you're first or that when your Summertime single, originally was supposed to drop, was it the whole George Floyd and everything else? and you've gone to some of the protests, right? Yeah. From seeing your social media. can you talk about that? Talk to us about that a little bit. Like, how's that been for you? I know, like we, we ended up doing like a extra episode just because we were so heated with everything going on and I've been donating like crazy and stuff like that.

Benoit:

so this time around, I was been a little bit more fatigued by it. four years ago I would have been out every day. I would have been like, fuck my job. I'm out here. I have a little bit more at stake these days, so I'm definitely going to pull up. I am not going to participate in destruction

Eric:

or looting,

Benoit:

but I also am not mad at reparations. like we were in long beach. at a March and we watched all the looting start. I was never mad at it, but somebody had, they gave me a beer from something they looted from groceries. Like I'm not mad at them. I'm not about to go do exactly what it's about.

Eric:

Yeah. Gil and I have talked and I always say a person could only whisper for so long before they have to yell. And that's what the fuck is going on now. Like I'm not mad. Like I totally get it.

Benoit:

And I saw firsthand that, That, the police were instigating a lot. All of it like firsthand I've been, I was shot with a I don't even know what the fuck it was, it cinged all the hair on my arm though. I was like, I've seen that I've seen nothing being happening and they. Start shooting. they're rubber bullets. Like I live on fifth and Broadway in downtown LA and I did a protest every other day, walking down and you just see 50 million cops rolling down for a group of 50 people. There's 20 squad cars. And you're like, then you go back to the fact that, so at the beginning of all that it woke me up to, Like the city's effect on how we're treated as a people, understanding that we tend to change to make that change in the government. We have, we have to change our cities because what we have is a democratic mayor that everybody just voted for him because he's a Democrat Garcetti who appointed. I don't even know what part of this matter aligns with Michael Moore. Who's the chief of police of Los Angeles, and they're getting $3 billion a year, just getting $3 billion a year for bullshit, for two, for shit, like for waste of time to perpetuate facts that people are looting and a side note, what I've noticed about most of the looting and the destruction these days. It's not been any people of color. Everybody I see is white people smashing windows.

Eric:

Okay. I was going to bring that up actually, because I see a lot of that. And then they're trying to pinpoint it on people of color and say, Oh, they're looting. They're criminals are like, no, actually look at the fucking tapes and you'll see who's throwing the bricks or who's laying the bricks out and everything else

Benoit:

I had to let people know they're sick, these little Facebook groups for downtown LA and I had to let them

Eric:

know.

Benoit:

In comments like you guys are fucking ridiculous. Like literally look at the video. You keep protesting Black Lives Matters is destructing us, but you're not even in these protests to hear the Black Lives Matters. Leader leaders saying stop doing what are you doing? I've seen it more often than a loot or a destruction, or even a spray paint. Leaders of the Black Lives Matter movement. Trying to halt that kind of behavior. Yeah. I've seen that more than any kind of like unlawful or unpeaceful display and it's sick. that narrative is still,

Eric:

yeah, you don't get that. You don't get to see that narrative. And it's bullshit that it's not what they're trying to make. It seem like

Benoit:

here's the kicker. I come from a cop family. My grandpa was like retired from as a cop, I think, 30 years. my uncle and his wife are current cops. and they fully understand the movement. I don't know if my uncle fully understands that my grandpa, when people say defund the police, he understands exactly what the fuck. That means

Eric:

without question. Here's so many people are like, all you're trying to shut down the police department. Like all that's not what it means. No, that's

Benoit:

stupid argument. Who are you going to call?

Gil:

The fucking PO,

Benoit:

who are you going to call me to get robbed? I'm gonna call the police. Cause that's what the fuck they're there for.

Eric:

They're there once the crime happens, they're not there to prevent the crime,

Benoit:

right?

Gil:

Yes.

Benoit:

$3 billion for what? And then you have APD, let's not get our APD. What was that one gay top that wasn't log cabin, Republican cop talking about a human waste disposal. What was his name? Troy. Trey. Trey. I think that was his name. I don't remember. He killed that lawyer on, I was always afraid of coming into contact with APD cause they're, irrate.

Eric:

Yeah, they can be. Yeah, for sure.

Benoit:

I always I've always had really good cops.

Eric:

I always like, even driving past on my like white knuckle, my wheel I'm not doing anything. I'm like, Oh my God, they're going to pull me over

Benoit:

because they like to shoot people. Yeah.

Eric:

so if you had to talk to. Younger Benoit any words of wisdom you would pass on to him?

Benoit:

nobody holds you down. How's it go? can't nobody take my pride. Can't nobody hold you down. Oh, no, you got to keep on moving and I'm dead ass. There's too many times. Like I would tell myself to not let outside things, stop me from thinking that I'm great.

Eric:

that's awesome. You are. so you said that you're still, you do pretty much everything in entertainment. are you still dancing?

Benoit:

not as heavy.

Eric:

Okay. Not

Benoit:

going to lie. When I first moved to LA, I had a hit on my, dancing ego.

Eric:

It's intense out there. not that I've ever lived in LA, but I've gone to auditions in LA and I'm like, yeah, I think I should just sneak out this door and not even, yeah.

Benoit:

Yo, I came in and I was like, hi guys, I'm here. And they were like, and I was like, Oh, My feelings are hurt for a while.

Eric:

Yeah, I can totally get that

Benoit:

has bitches now I got something for they ass now. now I'm booking you. So the hot thing about, I got mad thinking about that,

Eric:

as you fan yourself off,

Benoit:

I'm getting older.

Gil:

It's

Eric:

hot flashes. How old are you now?

Gil:

24

Eric:

24. Okay. You're 24.

Benoit:

Ooh. That's a little too young

Gil:

with a little

Benoit:

experience. I'm actually not mad. I'm 32 now.

Eric:

Okay. He's the baby of this interview. Oh Lord one. I'm nine years older than you. So

Benoit:

you're never 41.

Gil:

What's it? Since when. Eric. That's a lie.

Eric:

I know. I act like I'm like 24.

Benoit:

Wait, how old are you? Gil?

Gil:

A 34.

Benoit:

Okay. Oh, I thought you were saying, Oh, I see you said 24. I seen what was happening. I thought you were calling me 34 for a second. So for a second, I was like, listen,

Gil:

look at it.

Benoit:

My grandparents sent me a check for my birthday. And then the memo they wrote for your 35th birthday. Oh,

Eric:

hell no.

Benoit:

I called them and I was like, we're still doing this so mad.

Eric:

What's been your favorite. have you liked being in your thirties or did you prefer your twenties or?

Benoit:

I wish I had the I'm like,

Eric:

you're still like young in your thirties though. So

Benoit:

always be 24. So when you sent out was 24 hours, correct? Mentally, I always be 20. I progressed from three I'm, probably about 26 mentally these

Eric:

days. That was like one of my favorite years. 30 was a really great year. And, but 26 was like a great year for me.

Benoit:

What was I doing when I was 26? Oh, that was a terrible year. I got my heart stomped on. Do you remember how I was dating that one person? Did I ever tell you about that?

Eric:

No, you did not.

Benoit:

It's probably cause I don't like the name drop like that, but I will, since we're talking, do you know who Sam Sparrow is, right? Yeah. That motherfucker rips my heart on my chest.

Eric:

Oh, damn.

Benoit:

We were dating for four months and he called me up one day and he's I can't do an Australian accent cause Brandon, I can't do it. He's like Brandon, this isn't gonna work or something. And I was like in love with him. Like the story was magical. We. Like it was magical. We were right together, but I was like, obviously, probably shouldn't have been in a relationship, but also he should have been a little bit more patient and now he's married. So that's awkward. just got over. That was also in a three year relationship after that from 26 to 29 with a French man. I like it. I'm foreign

Eric:

obviously. And good for you. I think foreign is better, but that's just my opinion. What do I know? I'm still,

Benoit:

you said foreign is where it's at

Eric:

though. Yeah, it is. Although Huh?

Benoit:

I just ended something with somebody that I had to for my own sake.

Eric:

Oh really? Yeah. what happened there? If you don't mind talking about it?

Benoit:

I don't, he, is a wonderful person. He, I don't think was able to be emotionally available as he thought he may have been able to be. and so, I gave him his room and his, I slowed because I moved like a lesbian in a relationship.

Eric:

You meet them and you're done. You're in, moved in the house U-haul's called and

Benoit:

I'm like, not moving the house, but I'm like we see each other every day. You might boo.

Eric:

Okay.

Benoit:

like we went camping like the first week we started dating vibes,

Eric:

but,

Benoit:

so he was like too distant. Like he was trying to pull far. He's trying to pull away too far. And, you remember Michael Checkley RIP? I had asked him to hit me up on the 10th anniversary of his passing, which was this past September. Yeah. I was like, hit me up on Saturday. Cause I don't know how I'm going to be. Like, I don't know if I'm going to be all right. And he never texted me. I know we have commiserated about like death of friends and stuff. It was odd. So at that it was for me, cause I was like, that's like the, that's like the smallest thing. That somebody could do for me. And I'm already like doing a lot for this

Eric:

situation.

Benoit:

So I cooked him one last dinner, cause I like to cook and I told him to wrap

Eric:

on that. That's when you gotta take care of yourself. Yeah.

Benoit:

I try to watch it. I watched all the Girlfriends that's for that.

Eric:

I'm like,

Benoit:

God, I'm such a Joan, but like I'm also a, Maya and also I'm a Toni, but then I smoke weed, like a Lynne it's crazy.

Eric:

Yeah. I think I would be probably somewhere between Joan and Toni

Benoit:

Do you watch it Gil?

Gil:

I do not. I know. of it

Benoit:

I love that

Gil:

show. It is

Eric:

such

Benoit:

a, that's a quote from there. That'll be your favorite character by yeah.

Eric:

She has a whole book on that and everything.

Benoit:

Oh, hell yeah a wine break? I can grab some more wine. there is a grocery store here called. Grocery outlet. And they have this Rose that I really love.

Eric:

you drink Rose.

Benoit:

I drink wine.

Eric:

I'm a wine person now, too. I used to be like the fruity mixed drinks and

Gil:

moved on from that. When I was younger, I loved it. Now I'm like no wine or bourbons or anything like that.

Benoit:

I can't drink bourbons or vodka is I drink tequila, wine and

Eric:

gin. I can not handle tequila

Benoit:

and

Eric:

rum.

Gil:

Outdated

Eric:

tequila. And I do

Gil:

know discriminate because the alcohol I'm like which one

Eric:

I'll drink. I can do it vodka. I can do rum and I can do wine and beer. And I think that's about it. I'm a super lightweight, I'm a lightweight though. Tequila

Benoit:

puts me in a place. I was bartending in this bar in Hollywood called Wooden Vine. And we would close at 2:00 AM. But I would be the closing bartender sometimes, and my ass would be lit. I be so drunk sometimes coming home, they would do the orders for the Florida laser tequila. And they'd be like, how did we go through a bottle of FLorida Laser on a Saturday. And I'm like,

Gil:

We're all

Benoit:

bottle. Cause I was, that's why I added an extra, I would always flub that shit. I don't work there anymore. So I can't say that I always flubbed the inventory to make it seem like we needed one more bottle so that I can always kill a bottle,

Gil:

which

Benoit:

I ended up telling my two of them though.

Eric:

I know Gil and I were talking in one of our other episodes about how like the club scene was like a comfort zone for us, or at least for me, I always felt more comfortable there. Then I did anywhere else in the world. Like how has the scene been for you? And do you have any places that you prefer in the scene? Not prefer in the scene? I don't know if that makes sense or not.

Benoit:

I like going out. I don't like going to crowded

Eric:

places like

Benoit:

the abbeys and no also cause the like the clientele, music festivals, like I'm not going to Coachella.

Eric:

Okay.

Benoit:

Unless I have some kind of like VIP sitch, like I'm not going to Coachella if I'm performing or I'm not going to like. Be wind dusted and no, and be around like a bunch of fucking people. no, especially now Burning man was never going to happen for me. Like the acid, the the trip, like all that shit. Sounds fun for Burning man. No, they told me about the shower situations the first time. And I was like, no, I like to go to bars, mostly like bars with good music.

Eric:

Yes.

Benoit:

Where was I even going before COVID hit like red line and precinct all of these bars downtown that I moved to be closer to that I can't even go to now.

Eric:

Yeah. what is LA life like with Covid

Gil:

people? Don't give a fuck.

Benoit:

They go do their thing, but they're wearing a mask at least most of the time. we have a lot of people in our group I've tested negative for COVID that we are around.

Eric:

Cool. Yeah. I know if you keep it,

Benoit:

firstly, that's not a lie.

Eric:

Yeah. I don't know a whole lot of people that have tested. I know a few people that have tested and I know I only, I personally only actually only know like a few people who've actually tested positive for it. but they had really harsh signs and symptoms from what they told me. Yeah. And then you have this asshole in D C who has no signs and symptoms. Cause he's all. high on steroids

Benoit:

I thought you were talking about me for a second. Yeah.

Eric:

no in DC,

Benoit:

he, I don't think he, yeah, he doesn't have motherfucking COVID,

Eric:

at first I was like, Oh, he does. And then I'm like, I don't think he does, but he could just be hi

Benoit:

Clorox, like piece of shit. I can't stand that fucking man.

Gil:

You should test this theories for science. Of course. I also had

Benoit:

never heard Mike Pence speak before last night

Eric:

Oh, did you watch the debate?

Benoit:

Yeah, that was ridiculous. Also they did he tried to do Kamala wrong. She said I'm speaking. I'm speaking. I said, get him together.

Eric:

I was so mad watching it. I was popcorn ready and all she's going to totally just emasculate him and castrate him verbally because I love me some Kamala when she comes to debate and interrogate, but He. Illustrates the toxic misogyny that this country is founded on and the racism that this country is founded on

Benoit:

and calls his wife mother,

Eric:

which disturbs me. And

Benoit:

I guess nevermind. Cause I guess call them people daddies.

Eric:

Yeah. We've had that discussion too. About

Gil:

the daddy role,

Benoit:

full daddy issues over here.

Eric:

Do you ever play the daddy role?

Benoit:

No.

Eric:

No. Oh, you're

Benoit:

still going to have to one day.

Gil:

Yes.

Benoit:

Coming up soon. The breath and Kruger. I think she crossroads right now.

Eric:

I know you've said that you were in a three year relationship. And then you were in another serious relationship before that. do you still ever get on the apps then? Cause Gil's actually never been on any of the apps because he met his husband, like before the apps really became a big thing.

Gil:

Like in my day I thought, what is it? Like you go through Craigslist. There was downlink. There was like, it's very minimal

Benoit:

downlink.

Gil:

Yeah. From many

Benoit:

centuries

Gil:

ago,

Benoit:

chats were lit.

Gil:

I was so scared of like even talking to people online. So I was like, what is this? What do you mean? I just met everyone in person.

Benoit:

No, I've been a virtual Ho since I was in middle school. Okay. To this day, to this fucking day. I was never in a relationship from meeting that person out. Like I, we were on like Sam was a Tinder, Francoise. My ex after him was fucking we were talking on all kinds of shit before I met Sam too. That's the funny part when he was with his ex and he was trying to get me to join them. For some fun,

Eric:

oh suki suki now.

Benoit:

Ooh, I wasn't having it. And so Francoise, I was like all the apps. and the website, I think that was the last time I used Manhunt.

Eric:

I remember manhunt. I used to be on Manhunt. I met one of the hottest guys I've ever been with on manhunt

Benoit:

manhunt served me right in like after high school and in high school doing shit, I shouldn't have been doing lying about my mother fucking age. and then, the last person that I just stopped talking to actually met them when they came in and I bartended for them. And then we reconnected via Scruff.

Eric:

Okay.

Benoit:

So that's like an app thing. and I have a date next week with some gentlemen. Nice. Cause how else am I supposed to meet somebody? First of all, when I go out and don't talk to me, like I didn't come out with you. Don't talk to me.

Eric:

Okay.

Benoit:

How did Chloe and Halle say it's a home homeys only by don't talk to her.

Eric:

They just got their first gold certified album

Benoit:

they're, so cute. And I want to be their best friends.

Eric:

I love them. And I got really introduced to them through Grown-ish because I love that show. So

Benoit:

I need to start watching it. Cause they're not like that. They're not like those characters I hear.

Eric:

and Yara Shahidi, I adore her. She's like my favorite like, young Hollywood Zendaya or like my aw.

Benoit:

Did you love, Euphoria?

Eric:

Oh my God. I loved Euphoria. Gil's shut up with the Euphoria already.

Gil:

I hear it everywhere at work.

Benoit:

I was.

Eric:

I was no,

Benoit:

you need to, I'm about to make you a playlist of shows to watch you're missing out.

Eric:

I will say I was late to the Euphoria party. Like I only saw it during quarantine and then I was like, okay, I got to watch it, but I don't have HBO. And I was like, okay, I'll do the seven free day trial of HBO. I like I am marathon that show, like within the two days I took one night off and then I like marathoned again. And then I was like, fuck it. I'm just buying the show. And I've watched it like five times since then. she so deserved that Emmy and that episode three, which is, I think, has worth, they actually submitted for the Emmy nomination process.

Benoit:

Is that the one that you got in the fight with her mom or she's like tumbling in the hallway?

Eric:

it's the one where she went to Fez house and she's out the door

Benoit:

and she's give

Eric:

me a drugs. Yeah. That scene to me is probably one of

Benoit:

the best scenes ever. So it's so good. Imma go back to Albuquerque and I'm going to give you a tab ass. We're about to watch Euphoria

Eric:

and he's not in Albuquerque though. He's in San Francisco, oh I'm comin

Benoit:

to

Eric:

the bay

Gil:

closer.

Benoit:

That's my favorite area of Bay area. Awesome. San Francisco, October. Like the first time I ever went to San Francisco was. During Halloween in the Castro.

Gil:

Oh, good. So

Benoit:

drunk drinking at sea level for the first time.

Gil:

That's quite different. I crawled, like

Benoit:

I went in, threw up, I ran out of the doors of Badlands and threw up in the parking lot. Oh

Gil:

yes.

Benoit:

Bouncer would laugh, was laughing. And let me back in. And then my friend handed me a beer and I took two sips and I was like, fuck, no. And I went back thinking that this hotel that we stayed in was so close. I was on my hands and knees crawling up the Castro to market. Like I could not walk in between garbage cans and like cars, crawling that's a

Gil:

good Halloween,

Benoit:

said Brandon. And I said, Oh, Call a cab. This is me for left and all that. You know what I mean? I lost one of my first phones there and my grindr would always pick up people from San Francisco for a year. It was weird.

Eric:

Oh, nice. I have actually never been clubbing in San Francisco or in the Bay area. And I don't know why we went to Sacramento.

Gil:

Sacramento

Eric:

went to Faces in Sacramento.

Benoit:

Yeah. San Francisco pride. We took Molly.

Eric:

Ooh. Wow. That must have been some fun.

Gil:

San Francisco pride is another level

Benoit:

that fucking cooridor wind hit. And I was like, it's called as fuck. Here. It is 43 degrees with what is wrong with here? It's the only thing. But like now I know, because fall was just nice. It was nice and chill. It was perfect. It was like fall time. Yeah. All the leaves are Brown and the sky is gray, right? Yeah. In June it's like nice at 12 o'clock and then once 12 o'clock is done that fucking cooridor wind comes through and you're just like,

Eric:

it was cold. Yeah.

Benoit:

Took The Bart all the way to Oakland with no clothes on, essentially.

Gil:

It was

Benoit:

the worst thing, but I did discover shameless that night. So I'm not mad

Eric:

nice. I almost forgot what I was going to go with that.

Benoit:

that's my fault. I talked a lot.

Eric:

no. I appreciate it. It keeps the levity up and, Oh, have you been to Folsom street? Fair.

Benoit:

No, I'm not that kind of girl. My ex was that kind of girl. She always trying to get me to be that kind of girl, but I am not that kinda girl.

Eric:

Super fun though. I went there when Gil got married. I didn't go there. when he got married, it was the same trip, but he had gotten married like the day before, two days before. And I went

Benoit:

to, and you had your, what do you call it? W what happens after you get married? You go on a trip, a psycho honeymoon. You did your honeymoon at Folsom?

Gil:

Oh God. No, I'm not. No,

Eric:

he's not that kind of girl either.

Gil:

I'm like,

Eric:

Nope, no, I went, I was like, Oh, Folsom is happening.

Benoit:

I'm telling you. It's I'm that kinda girl.

Eric:

Although I was a lot more reserved than everyone, almost everyone else. There was, I thought I was actually being slightly slutty for me and Oh

Gil:

no, Eric.

Eric:

I was like, Oh no, I look like I'm like, In my nun habit right here with my Bible.

Benoit:

they

Eric:

go hard. They do. But it's actually really it's really liberating and freeing to see

Gil:

it's a nonjudgmental zone and that's mostly, I feel like it's San Francisco vibe. Like I said,

Eric:

I totally wanted to get flogged. I totally wanted to get flogged while I was there, but

Benoit:

I'm not at that. I just like it's I have a limit to what I see. And that limit is fully. I can tell you what the limit is. fisting is the limit. I've seen somebody be fisted, live at a sex shop in West Hollywood for their halloween party. You've seen it happen.

Eric:

Yeah. that happened at Folsom. And then I went to Blatino Oasis years ago.

Benoit:

Who's black penis.

Eric:

Blatino Oasis.

Benoit:

Oh, black Dean. Ooh.

Eric:

Yeah, this was like years ago. I've heard of that. it was in Palm Springs and

Benoit:

I just got chills when he said that, because I could imagine exactly what the fuck that was like.

Eric:

it was fun. It was interesting. I would totally go back. I actually really love Palm Springs.

Benoit:

Love Palm Springs.

Eric:

Yeah. Yeah. I saw someone getting, I believe I saw something. Yeah. I saw someone getting fisted there too. And I saw someone doing self fellatio as well, which I was like, I used to do that. Oh, really?

Benoit:

Yeah. When I was looking through the school.

Gil:

Yeah.

Eric:

I was jealous about that, but I will say like the weird thing about it though, is it was in like this seedy divey, like motels kind of area or place.

Benoit:

I have a pool in the center. Yeah. I probably know exactly where you stayed because

Eric:

yeah. And, it smelled like ass and lube and you could

Benoit:

they shoot porn there.

Eric:

Yeah. And you could see the, oil from the lube, like on the top of the water. So

Benoit:

I didn't get into full fucking disgusting.

Eric:

my friend, that I was with went swimming in that pool. I didn't go swimming in that pool. We stayed in a different hotel from there, but we like hung out there, like during the day for two days.

Benoit:

He swam he's covered like he's fully covered for God damn.

Eric:

Yeah. I was like all. Yeah, no, I just sat at a table.

Benoit:

Palm Springs is wild.

Eric:

It's fun though. I went to, was it called Hunters? I think is the club

Benoit:

and it's hot as fuck for no reason.

Eric:

Yeah, because I went in May and I was like, Oh my God,

Benoit:

I don't do good with like extreme, cold or extreme. I like this morning was the first time I opened my windows for cool air. It was like 63. I was like, Oh, this is a nice I can feel the breeze on my feet. I'm having have tea. But especially being like 91 next week and I'm pissed again. I don't like heat. Fuck. I moved here. It's like hot all the fucking time.

Eric:

Yeah. I'm not a big fan of heat here. It's been, it's hot now for the fall. It's like here in Albuquerque where like in the nineties still, why? I don't know. And this summer was hot in the fact that like, we were at the high nineties for a long time. we hardly got into the hundreds though, which was cool, but it's still pretty hot.

Benoit:

Not, you Gil, you guys have perfect weather all the time. Except

Gil:

the smoke kicked in smoke this year was no joke.

Benoit:

That's crazy. I saw pictures.

Gil:

Yeah. Yeah. It was orange in the city. I was like, what the hell is this? Yeah, that was not pleasant

Benoit:

administration.

Eric:

you're supposed to be sweeping those leaves into the ocean. it's about forest management.

Gil:

Forest management to help. Absolutely.

Eric:

Someone

Gil:

got to get rid of it. What is it under a month? We'll vote him out.

Eric:

Yeah. I actually just got my absentee in the mail today, so

Gil:

I need to send in my,

Benoit:

do you know now we're shocked on, have you seen yours Gil?

Gil:

What is it?

Benoit:

Did you bet your voter, you

Gil:

started opening it?

Eric:

Yes.

Benoit:

Did you see, whose name is actually, I apologize on Instagram, about this the other day, because I

Gil:

you talked about Kanye Omari West. Yes. Yes.

Benoit:

He's on the ballot for California. It's weird.

Gil:

American independent. Yes. This will be the first time I'm actually doing a mail and normally prefer to go in.

Eric:

I usually do early and I'm still debating on whether I might actually just do early instead, but

Gil:

okay.

Benoit:

Oh, I can literally drop this off, down the street. I was like, what the fuck? I was really freaked out for a second. I was like, Oh, where is it? Kanye Omari West. And he's running for vice president, not president by the way.

Eric:

Yup. He's running for vice president VP.

Gil:

I thought he was running for president. You don't know the difference.

Benoit:

I had to put my posters away till all this madness is over.

Gil:

Yes.

Benoit:

I love that man, but he's I can't do this right now.

Eric:

Yeah. I heard him and Kim getting divorced, but I don't know how true that is or not.

Benoit:

They're in Dominican Republic right now. How are they at the time? Yeah,

Eric:

I don't follow the Kardashians anymore.

Benoit:

So I was also a pop culture studies, major CNM.

Eric:

Yeah. Oh nice. I didn't even know that they offered that

Benoit:

it was the weirdest class. I've took it. and they're cool ass people in the class, we never once had an exam or a paper. He gave us a syllabus at the beginning of the semester. Never once did, we have to turn in any of that shit.

Eric:

Oh, that's really cool. That's what that's about. CNM.

Benoit:

I stopped going to that class and I slill passed,

Eric:

yeah, you just hung out in my class though.

Benoit:

Facts I did Pilates. two weeks ago and I was like, Oh, I remember when I was doing Pilates in Eric's class. Anytime I do yoga, I think about how ace you got me to be like in yoga, that motherfucker whipped me into shape. I was in the best shape of my life because of him. Okay. It's

Gil:

Eric

Benoit:

kickboxing. And that was my shit.

Eric:

I was fun. That was our fun classes.

Gil:

you really did, Eric. You had to like all the classes, cause even when you're at the what's the North campus or whatever, I think I've popped in some of your classes, just for the fun.

Eric:

Yeah, probably always offered like makeups to come to any class. So I taught at all the three big campuses that they had until they restructured and cut us all out.

Benoit:

What do you mean cut you out?

Eric:

They went from having 27 instructors to seven instructors. So like I lost my job. I got laid off, fuck, and then the following semester, they went from seven instructors to three.

Benoit:

So you could only take it at one campus or what,

Eric:

yeah. You could only do main campus and they were all, they only kept I think five fitness classes that were required for some of the, certificates and associates.

Benoit:

I never continued that I went to school that next fall or that next spring. And I like to think the same I'm good

Eric:

okay. Yeah. So they like totally just cut us out and got rid of us. They're like peace out. I was the last person to get laid off in that first mass layoff.

Benoit:

That's fucking rude as fuck. go, I'm coming up to San Francisco soon and

Eric:

yeah. And let them know, make him, watch Euphoria.

Gil:

Yeah,

Benoit:

I'm going to give him the water. Here's the thing we should all do. Palm Springs trip. what's popping in Palm Springs. We can get a house.

Eric:

I would totally be down for that.

Benoit:

See, I make a joke for that, but

Eric:

we should do it there. you don't like big crowds. I was like, we just do it during a circuit party.

Benoit:

Fuck. No, I hate circuit parties,

Eric:

but let's just, yeah. no. We'll just go. Have fun.

Benoit:

I said, what is the syringe without a needle for? And then I was like, Oh my God, I've done it. I was like, I get

Gil:

it. That's a girl.

Benoit:

That's why you can't take me to shit like that. Cause I will start judging, always y'all start talking, shit, and it's not Like they're disgusting. It's just that. I'm uncomfortable

Gil:

you probably think of what I'm

Eric:

are they the same way that we were talking about that in one of the other episodes? How, like we're super catty when we're around each other. Yeah. And yeah, you would probably bring that out. Us to you. We'd be like,

Benoit:

Oh, this is do this in Palm Springs.

Gil:

Oh, that'd be fun.

Benoit:

Yeah.

Gil:

That's the alcohol flows. Oh my Lord. Here we go.

Eric:

I would totally be down to, I'd probably have to wait a little bit, like the COVID thing dies down a bit, but yeah,

Benoit:

correct. So like next

Eric:

spring

Benoit:

trip.

Eric:

Yeah. Go for my birthday.

Benoit:

Her birthday,

Eric:

4 20.

Benoit:

Yes. Yes. I edible today. Full disclosure. Yeah. Terrible like 40 milligrams.

Eric:

I actually want to start trying edibles. So

Benoit:

you could probably see it in my eyes at this point.

Eric:

Yeah. They're a little dilated.

Benoit:

edibles are nice. I prefer flowers also rocks in a blunt.

Eric:

Right? Nice. Very cool

Benoit:

to talk about that. Cause

Eric:

totally. Can you have the floor if you want.

Benoit:

weed. That's all

Gil:

wrapper. It impresses me with the how bougie. Some of the dispensary's are now.

Benoit:

Oh, I get my shits delivered. Okay. To my door.

Gil:

Yep.

Benoit:

you can't get delivery food in Albuquerque or you couldn't,

Eric:

you can now and

Benoit:

now I went off when I first moved here. Cause I was like you telling me. You will bring that shit to my house. I haven't experienced this since I lived in Chicago. We always had to go get the pizza nine. We always have to go get the fucking Dion's. We always had to go get the. I don't know what time we're were getting over there, but Chinese food should be delivered, period.

Eric:

Yeah. Albuquerque is always like 17 years behind

Benoit:

I'm on the radio with every, albuquerque people come at me, just pop him.

Eric:

I saw Ricky the other day. Did you? Yeah,

Benoit:

that's my best friend.

Eric:

Is he still

Benoit:

in the world? It is

Eric:

awesome.

Benoit:

He's like right next to me in my wedding party. And he's like right there next to me.

Eric:

Oh, nice.

Benoit:

Cool. Oh, that boy so much.

Eric:

Yeah, I didn't love

Benoit:

him loved him at first.

Eric:

I didn't know he was back in Albuquerque or back in New Mexico. And then, cause I knew he had moved back to the Bay. Everyone

Benoit:

knows a long time ago.

Eric:

Yeah. But I hadn't talked to him in forever. So

Benoit:

where'd you see him at?

Eric:

He hit me up on Facebook to see if I was still grooming dogs and then I ended up grooming like his mom's dog. So

Benoit:

I was like, he has a dog.

Eric:

That's his mom's dog.

Benoit:

Yeah, that's the homie. I love him. Shout out, Ricky Macias.

Eric:

He's a cool guy. He was in my classes too.

Benoit:

Oh, that's right. He did take classes with Jaeda and Rudy and. Who else can we name, like I said, Christina, a Bridgette? Her smoke shop. That's lit as fuck

Eric:

urban. What's it called?

Benoit:

just urban. That's right. Just Urban smoke shop. Shout out Just Urban Smoke shop.

Eric:

They actually just got broken into the other day.

Benoit:

I know I saw that she was like, stop you more than what it is. I paid attention to her shit. Cause she's lit. I liked her business model, like how she does her thing. who else was in there? I did not like Christina Duong at first. I don't even think she knows this, but I did not like her at first because she was too, I wasn't used to people motivating me like that in class, like random strangers, super motivating in class. Screaming at me to go harder. I don't know you bitch. And I got to know her and she was wonderful. And then I was like, I need you to do that. Now that worked out.

Eric:

She actually just did it. She did my teeth like about a year ago, cause she was in hygiene school and she just graduated with honors from hygiene school. And so she was doing my teeth. I was like one of her little patients at school. She's awesome. It's I still talk to her.

Benoit:

I haven't talked to her in a while, I'm Facebook friends with everybody. I see. Everybody's shit.

Eric:

Oh, cool. And you see all my political Shit,

Benoit:

a lot of people you said all the what,

Eric:

you said you see all my political shit. I see.

Benoit:

Everybody's political shit. Cause I'm looking for who I need to clap back on period. Tabitha Price I'm talking to you, bitch, everybody, every gay in Albuquerque is friends with this woman, Tabitha price. I

Eric:

am not, I don't know who that is.

Benoit:

No, you probably are. Check that shit. I be talking shit to her and I keep her I've kept her on my friends list. So that one, November

Eric:

3rd. Yeah, sure.

Benoit:

I can talk shit to her. Cause she posts all day about Trump and God and Trump got trumps. God chosen. God love God Trump. And I'm like bitch

Eric:

worshiping a false idol.

Benoit:

God, no man. Over there. I was like, that's fine.

Eric:

You can totally go there.

Benoit:

I did within, Oh fuck it. My grandparents will see every, they're not going to look at this far into the pond. My girlfriends will not look this far into it, but guess which one is what I'm saying?

Eric:

I try

Benoit:

to censor myself cause I have family on Facebook, but they don't be paying attention to my shit. It's five minutes anyway. So it's fine. Yeah.

Eric:

And this will be all audio, so yeah. Oh it is. Yes.

Benoit:

I've been telling it for the camera the whole time.

Gil:

We appreciate, I actually have a question who is

Eric:

not being on camera. Like I would not be on camera like this though.

Benoit:

You just want to put me on camera though. I'm just kidding.

Eric:

Probably like a lot of you, a lot of listeners and viewers that way.

Benoit:

Or not from Albuquerque. a lot of people from Albuquerque. You don't like me. I'm just saying, what are you saying?

Gil:

Oh, I was just saying, because we've talked about like you're in music. So did you have a diva growing up or is there any female artists? That's I like that. Cause we had a whole episode about that. I don't know

Benoit:

is my freshly not healed. Nicki Minaj tattoo.

Eric:

She just had a baby,

Benoit:

my little nephew or niece. You don't know yet. I love Nikki. I put there, if you look at my, one of my old Twitter accounts, she did her a documentary for my time now on MTV. And I put it on Twitter. I was like, I want to be like the first commercial gay rapper. And unfortunately that didn't happen, but I'm still rapping, which is a Testament to like the fact that I like to write my own raps and I stayed barred up and it's. Like her awesome. My whole rap career is a reflection of who she is as a business woman and an

Eric:

artist. That's awesome. I don't, I honestly, I will, you can slap me for this. I don't know a whole lot about her. I know who she is and I know her music and stuff like that, but I don't know much about her beyond that so

Benoit:

I can let you know. Everything

Eric:

cause like I can school people on Janet for years.

Benoit:

Facts you can.

Eric:

So I'm assuming you could do the same for Miss. Minaj.

Benoit:

do you watch YouTube a lot or no,

Eric:

me,

Benoit:

yeah,

Eric:

I do. I do. I watch, yeah, I do.

Benoit:

Look up like any Nikki Minaj YouTube style documentary. Cause they'll tell you everything you need to know about.

Eric:

Okay. Will do I watch a lot of things also, if

Benoit:

you ever thought she did not pay homage to Lil' Kim, that is not true. Oh,

Eric:

school me on that.

Benoit:

You ready for it? Because

Eric:

it's in a recorder.

Benoit:

Nicki Minaj in every interview. They'd be like once you first started, who are your influences? Lil Kim Foxy Lauren Hill. Literally. She would say those, I can't remember Lyric specifically should be like who's in your top of MCs. It'd be Fox. Kim and me or some shit like that. She never not paid her homage. Little Kim got mad at some business deals that other motherfuckers are trying to do. And then she retaliated against Nikki Minaj then looked fucking stupid and then try to galvanize her. when Nikki said Kim jumped out, the window, says Kim jumped out the motherfucking window. She was mad and it would have been anybody, like she said, Nikki would have been Foxy, Eve. It was Eve I get with anybody she's coming out. Biggie Small's, mom, crazy. Kim did what Kanye did and, had to get, had to act sane, fucking up my money. So I had to act sane. That's a Kanye West lyric. Like I'm acting sane like you that you have you fucking up your money. You realize that wasn't it. Now I love when Kim said I used to be scared of the debt. Now I throw lips to the shit. I love that lyric. I love Kim, but I love Nikki more. Also. Don't get me started on the Cardi B situation. Cause I can go for hours on that one also.

Eric:

Okay. Do you want to go for hours on that one?

Benoit:

I probably don't. Okay. Have you ever had your show about the music industry? Like female rappers,

Gil:

Call

Benoit:

me

Eric:

definitely. And you're definitely welcome to come back anytime you want. This

Benoit:

is good. That one is a lot, like I could go for hours on female rappers and I'm like a female rap connoisseur.

Eric:

Ooh. That would be an awesome episode to have. So if you ever want to come back and do that, you're more than welcome. This has been an

Benoit:

honor really biased, but also very fair. My bias, this. Yeah. When I do, Remy Ma impression.

Eric:

Okay. I got it. I got to hear that. I see that.

Benoit:

All right, hold on. Okay. I was locked up for six days, seven summers. Are you dumb?

Gil:

Wonderful. That

Eric:

was pretty great.

Benoit:

I saw her in person right after she released ether at this job I used to work at and I almost told her something. Oh,

Eric:

really?

Benoit:

But I wanted to keep my job. So I

Eric:

didn't say anything. No,

Benoit:

I'm really living up to this. I am a musician, like lifestyle with my Rose and my cigarettes.

Gil:

Good for you.

Eric:

Live it up like that. So what else do you have anything else going on project wise?

Benoit:

Just releasing all those music that I have in the vault. Okay. I have a bunch of music that needs to be finished or mastered, or what have you. I need to do some videos because I only have one music video hour now. and just push them. Benoit As a good idea to book for your next show.

Eric:

Yeah, for sure.

Benoit:

I'm going to need booking fees coming up. It's hard.

Eric:

Yeah, they are. For sure. I thank you for joining us. Hope you enjoyed it.

Gil:

Thank you so much.

Eric:

Hope you enjoyed your time in the Q lounge.

Benoit:

Absolutely. Did I want to come back? I would come to the lounge again. Yeah.

Eric:

Yeah. You're welcome. Any time. we've actually thought about doing like more of a panel show at sometimes too.

Benoit:

Ooh. For the panels. I love a good panel.

Gil:

Tea time at the Q lounge. Here we go. Here we go.

Eric:

We should do that as an episode. Did you ever watch the show? one girl, five gays

Benoit:

Yes.

Eric:

So yeah, we were talking about we should do that one of these days,

Benoit:

there was like a deGrasse character on the, yeah. Lauren Conrad. That's the Hills

Eric:

and that's the Hills. Wasn't it?

Benoit:

Collins Lauren Collins. Do you remember she was? You might not remember that she was on this Disney channel show about EMT.

Eric:

I don't know that, but I know she came in and went like halfway through season three or four of. One girl, five gays, She replaced

Benoit:

Aaliyah Jasmine?

Eric:

Yeah.

Benoit:

Or was it,

Eric:

it was Aaliyah Jasmine for

Benoit:

it wasn't like Alex Cho something involved with that too.

Eric:

Not that I know of.

Benoit:

I'm mistaken then. Okay.

Eric:

But I didn't see every episode, so I missed the fucking show and I didn't get to see the last season. And I like looked for it for like literally two years online and still find the episodes. I follow a lot of those guys though on Twitter. Cause they're pretty dope. Now

Benoit:

I'm bout to go look for those shows again,

Eric:

but those were great shows. So we might have to do something like that. And I said, you're always welcome. Totally. you're always welcome. So thank you, sir. I see that

Benoit:

my hand is under my chin and cuteness.

Eric:

we could take a camera, still have it, and it can not, can be the art work for this episode. I will totally even grab my phone.

Gil:

It gets checked.

Eric:

I hate that I have to sit here and it's not reading my face right now because the mic's in my face.

Gil:

Oh,

Benoit:

Should be used to it. Oh, good times.

Eric:

Yeah. We'll have to catch up again and I'm totally down for Palm Springs. I hope that wasn't just a, let's do it. Okay, cool.

Gil:

That actually looks like fun.

Eric:

Yeah, for sure. For 4, 20,

Benoit:

21.

Eric:

I'm sorry. I don't mean to keep going. I was so happy for this year, cause I was like, my birthday is going to be all month. Cause it's going to be four 20 all fucking month long. This shit happened. And I was like,

Benoit:

Oh shit. That's right. We were also to share Blunts this year.

Gil:

This was the year.

Benoit:

God damn it. 2020,

Gil:

just hot mess.

Eric:

No,

Benoit:

I not now I have to smoke double blunts next year. So

Gil:

it was well, because supposed to be the 50th anniversary of the pride in San Francisco, and we already had this like mammoth thing planned. So like next year, triple the

Benoit:

efforts, I might have

Eric:

to go for that too.

Benoit:

There were, they struck down DOMA prop eight. Oh, I was in the Castro for the purple party. And Rob Lowe was just randomly walking around and I go, Rob Lowe. I was walking behind the music ignoring hell of you want to go, Rob Lowe. I literally love you right now. Cause like Chris Traeger and parks and recreation, and he turns around at me, this is right when candelabra were, came him out behind the candelabra. He turned around and he goes, thank you. just spoke to me like he was Chris Traeger and. All right, let's keep going. I'm going to keep going. That's how I

Eric:

know that. That's

Gil:

fine. Eric, we need a D drinks as we do with the podcast.

Eric:

Do you need to do drinks? I'm like, I'm waiting.

Benoit:

this whole time.

Eric:

I see, and I have a bottle of Rose that I should have had with you.

Gil:

Yeah. I have my rose to drinking water. Be professional. no. Now

Eric:

I'm a lightweight, like I said earlier, I'm a lightweight, so I'd probably have one drink and I'd be like,

Benoit:

you need to get a liquor sponsor.

Eric:

Okay.

Gil:

Marble

Benoit:

brewery.

Eric:

Yeah. That would be awesome. That'd be awesome.

Benoit:

They might be trying to expand across state lines. You never know. Send me marble

Gil:

will bring some marble this way. I'm Down.

Eric:

I actually have a six pack of marble too.

Gil:

Marble Chama, whatever. Send it this way.

Benoit:

I forgot about Chama. I'm sorry. Chama.

Gil:

A little Chama. I was so sad when they closed their, what is it there with the sunrise building? Or the theater, they had like little tiny micro breweries love going there. I like drinking and playing scrabble.

Benoit:

I don't remember that place. My favorite marble is in Santa Fe, though on the Plaza.

Eric:

so she cute. Nice. I don't go to Santa Fe much. I'm still traumatized.

Benoit:

Oh, real quick. Shout out future fantasy to like D S Sparks. that's all I got. I've actually shouted out a lot. I said a few names.

Eric:

Yeah, you did and I Hope you enjoyed your time in the Q lounge. thank you for joining us. And we look forward to seeing you again.

Gil:

Good night. Thank you for joining us. We hope you enjoyed your time in the Q lounge. If you have any questions, comments, suggestions on topics, or you would like to be a guest or contributor, please email us at info.TheQlounge@gmail.Com or through our contact page at theqloungepodcast.com while you're there hit that subscribe button or listen wherever you get your podcast. If you would like to further support us, hit that donation button

Eric:

until next time live in your authenticity.